What’s your favourite red flag in dating?

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osama bin laden 20/mai./2023 às 7:26

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ZZZZZ 20/mai./2023 às 11:43

do people actually think in red flags? the idea sounds quite silly

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Gtkp_ 20/mai./2023 às 11:43

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Escrito originalmente por Gtkp_:
I think it's a little lame, if you like this person and invite your friend to the date it tends to be constrictive and a little demoralizing.
of course i will tell him first. he can bring his friends too if he want.

If you don't mind me asking, what's the end goal if you do that?

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Rhila 20/mai./2023 às 11:45

Escrito originalmente por Gtkp_:
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of course i will tell him first. he can bring his friends too if he want.
If you don't mind me asking, what's the end goal if you do that?

not to be with a man alone even if i like him.

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GlaceonChireiden 20/mai./2023 às 11:55

Wait, what do you mean "favorite red flag"
Aren't red flags bad? Why do you have a favorite, one that you like the most?
Is this a "Now hear me out" situation???

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kbiz 20/mai./2023 às 11:56

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If you don't mind me asking, what's the end goal if you do that?
not to be with a man alone even if i like him.

I imagine your views on that will change in time, Rhila. It's pretty common to go on a date with just one other person.

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Ganger 20/mai./2023 às 11:57

At my age im not fussy anymore. Just please no hairy armpits.

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[horse whinnies] 20/mai./2023 às 12:07

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i have no idea.
is it ok to bring my friends with me to dates? or is it red flag too?

Context is important.
If you don't know the man very well and the date is at a bar or something, then it's probably a good idea to bring a friend. You don't have to sit with the friend the whole time, they can mingle a bit too and stick around to check you're ok, or to provide you an easy escape route if things don't go well with the date. You can always mention it to the date before you meet, that you're bringing a friend.

But to a dinner date? I don't know. That's a bit awkward. I'd suggest getting to know them in more open dates first. Build up the trust in casual public spaces before going on more intimate dates.

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[horse whinnies] 20/mai./2023 às 12:10

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do people actually think in red flags? the idea sounds quite silly

What do you mean by "think in red flags"? Red flags is just a term for things that give you a bad vibe about a person. Most humans experience this, it's part of being a sentient species. A survival instinct.

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Vinz Clortho 20/mai./2023 às 12:14

I was in the supermarket once and a little girl said to her mum: "Mummy, everything I say that I don't like, that means that I like it and everything I say I like, that means I don't like it"

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[horse whinnies] 20/mai./2023 às 12:17

Escrito originalmente por Gtkp_:
As soon as someone uses the words "validate" or "mental health" or really any psychological term that's being propped up nowadays

Anyone that uses the word "nowadays" in this context is a red flag to me. It's a symptom of bitterness towards those that are different, and being incapable of adapting to the times/growing out of behaviours they learnt in the playground.

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Space is the Place 20/mai./2023 às 12:34

Personally I don´t see red flags on a first date, knowing someone it´s not an instant thing, you don´t talk for 5 minutes and suddenly know everything about that person. Plus, on a first impressions date, it´s completely normal for people to get nervous and misexpress themselves or probably try to sell themselves way to high or way to low depending on their levels of selfsteem.

For me red flags start to appear after some time when the two people relax and start to show their true colors, and the two biggest I have experienced are:

-The other person has a Tinder profile and after a month of dating they still have it on. "It´s for the lols"... yeah, sure. For me it sounds like they don´t think too highly of our chances and are weighting options with pictures of other guys.

-The other person always has "the worst luck with dating". SOmetimes they will have several long term relationships in the past with horrible partners that would threat them like dog sh**t, to the point you start to question why did they stood on that relationship for so long if it was so bad? And how is it that in their stories they are always the victim? Like someone said previously on this thread, it makes me think no matter how I threat them, they will talk the same about me. And this actually happened to me recently and it´s quite surreal how this type of people bend the true to make you look like an absolute monster.

Escrito originalmente por horse whinnies:
Escrito originalmente por Gtkp_:
As soon as someone uses the words "validate" or "mental health" or really any psychological term that's being propped up nowadays

Anyone that uses the word "nowadays" in this context is a red flag to me. It's a symptom of bitterness towards those that are different, and being incapable of adapting to the times/growing out of behaviours they learnt in the playground.

+1, Human´s life span is so short that it honestly sounds pathetic when someone speaks as if they were 500 years old and seen the world change in so many ways that they can´t even recognize it anymore. Languages evolve, getting mad about it it´s, just like you said, a bitter attitude.

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Here is my card 20/mai./2023 às 12:48

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Well its nice to see that I def wouldn't be... popular candidate for the most on OT.
You would, but you have to acept that everyone here is a boy.

Boy, girl, it doesn't matter - but if one has tattoos and piercings and possibly dyed hair -

You're out of here!

#42

ZZZZZ 20/mai./2023 às 12:49

Escrito originalmente por horse whinnies:
Escrito originalmente por CaptainG:
do people actually think in red flags? the idea sounds quite silly

What do you mean by "think in red flags"? Red flags is just a term for things that give you a bad vibe about a person. Most humans experience this, it's part of being a sentient species. A survival instinct.

vibes are individual but lots of people treat red flags like "if person doesnt wear shoes she/he will most likely kill me in my sleep".. and this thread is about those things since u cant experience bad vibes without feeling them

Última edição por ZZZZZ; 20/mai./2023 às 12:51

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[horse whinnies] 20/mai./2023 às 13:14

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You would, but you have to acept that everyone here is a boy.

Boy, girl, it doesn't matter - but if one has tattoos and piercings and possibly dyed hair - :morgantalks: You're out of here!

Aposematism - an evolved defense found in nature to deter predators by using bright colours/markings. Working as intended.

Última edição por [horse whinnies]; 20/mai./2023 às 13:15

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