Do you deserve to be single?

[St✩rlight]

Hello OT, tell me if you think you deserve to be single.

[☮ne✟rue𝓢ax☯n]

I choose to be alone nowadays. I'm not very good when it comes to commitment (for various reasons). Therefore if people get too close, something deep down in my subconscious triggers my "inner bastard" and I push people away. This has caused me to have many regrets in how I've treated those I've cared for and loved in the past.

Casual relationships work better for me, short and sweet..... No ties.

[AJOTA]

I don't know.

I'm starting to think I don't deserve a relationship tho, I think it's because I feel i'm not good enough, people say I'm a good looking girl, not sure it's true but yet I feel super isolated not even friends I have and it's not lacking of going out or having hobbies or something.

Never even holds hands with a guy but at this point in life we just accept it is what it is

have a good day

[Candyy]

Raelic の投稿を引用：

Society sucks right now for you young men. The statistics don't lie.

However, you also can't force someone to like you.

It's a tough nut to solve.

The best thing you can do is make decisions and lifestyle choices that increases the chances to have the outcome you want.

Working out doesn't mean you'll meet someone, but it makes it more likely.
Going to college doesn't mean someone will like you, but it makes it more likely.
Grooming doesn't mean someone will find you attractive, but it makes it more likely.

Just keep making decisions that increase the chances and it'll happen. But, when it does, it'll probably be with someone who is banging 3 other guys.

And while men can't force women to like them... women can't force guys to like women who sleep with a bunch of guys.

I do deserve to be single. I've been married twice and have had two serious relationships around those marriages. I choose video games. I'll always prioritize video games.

So yes, I deserve to be single. And I'm okay with just going out on a few dates a year. That's all I need.

I have seen plenty of males having a partner 🤷

[Candyy]

Munithe EXT の投稿を引用：

Hello OT, tell me if you think you deserve to be single.

I have too much self hate tendencies to even give a proper answer rly...
But well, there is always something to appreciate I guess v:

But I got my partner 🤷

So I supposed some appreciates me for what I am?

But well, we were like friends for years... Is not just hey I just met this person, lets be partners ,like most ppl want to do v:

[Ghost Robertson]

Gumball v12 の投稿を引用：

⛧ の投稿を引用：

I've told my online friend that if he ever wants to see me irl. Consider buying me exercise bikes. Because if I don't look fantastic in the mirror, I don't want him to see me irl.

I'm a strong believer in, if you aren't at your best looking, you shouldn't be looking for someone else. That my personal motto, if I don't look good, the idea of someone liking me physically kind of makes me ill feeling. Obviously that only applies to myself, because I have ridiculously high personal standards for myself.

I feel like I'm just scamming people if they look great and I look bad. And first impressions are super important.

Brah, bikes ain't gonna do ♥♥♥♥ for your physique, you need to pack some muscle if you want to lose your beer belly.

Actually she is better walking to places (if she lives close enough).

With an exercise bike you can lose motivation but if you're walking to a cafe at least you know you want a coffee.

[Candyy]

⛧ の投稿を引用：

I've told my online friend that if he ever wants to see me irl. Consider buying me exercise bikes. Because if I don't look fantastic in the mirror, I don't want him to see me irl.

I'm a strong believer in, if you aren't at your best looking, you shouldn't be looking for someone else. That my personal motto, if I don't look good, the idea of someone liking me physically kind of makes me ill feeling. Obviously that only applies to myself, because I have ridiculously high personal standards for myself.

I feel like I'm just scamming people if they look great and I look bad. And first impressions are super important.

You are going too far... Give try and try some positivity? 🤷

For me it took time to practice to not be too harsh on myself, even though my case more extreme but whatever...

[Candyy]

Gumball v12 の投稿を引用：

Candyy ♡ の投稿を引用：

You are going to far... Give try and try some positivity? 🤷

For me it took time to practice to not be too harsh on myself, even though my case more extreme but whatever...

I'd recommend following the philosophy of "how to not give a ♥♥♥♥" book author, his name is mark something, he ironically preaches that you should give a ♥♥♥♥, because otherwise you're a psychopath, but he also stresses how everybody's a total ♥♥♥♥ up, everyone makes hundreds of mistakes everyday, everyone messes up, everyone's insecure, and all that jazz.

Well, each one is different... That copying mechanism may or may not work on others 🤷

But did not know that book actually exists?

[Chaosolous]

I don’t know about deserving but I’d much rather be single over not.

Besides, anyone who would get involved with me has problems in judgement that I want nothing to do with.

[White Knight]

Deserve has nothing to do with it.

[craigsters]

I shared everything with my sibling's growing up, clothes, bicycles , bedrooms and even birthday cakes, because my brother's birthday was the same week as mine!..

I deserve to live alone and like being a selfish bastard

[Sidakte]

deserve to be single....

that's a nice question.
not single atm but if i was i guess it would have to do with me not wanting to force my insecurities over someone else and trying to manage my dark side before i even thought i would go back to dating. that X else would be after a person without insecurities and i am also an individual who likes to present his best self to a new date / possible relation but not a perfectionist at all either.

so for a direct honest answer: yeah i guess i would deserve being single.

[Angel]

I found it very hard to stay single but probably because most of my friends are women and had networks of single friends. So any moment I was single, they would push me to go out with their friends (and I tried to stay single for a few months on purpose which only lasted a week).

But I don't think I deserve to be single. I'm too caring of others and romantic by heart.

[Grimmz]

probably. i just game all the time and only ever go out when i need food.

chances are pretty slim i'd meet an interesting partner during my food run and they wanted to join me in my gaming sesh. but then again i only have 1 chair and everything is a mess all the time. i am pretty much a ''hikikomori''.

[Raelic]

Angel の投稿を引用：

I found it very hard to stay single but probably because most of my friends are women and had networks of single friends. So any moment I was single, they would push me to go out with their friends (and I tried to stay single for a few months on purpose which only lasted a week).

But I don't think I deserve to be single. I'm too caring of others and romantic by heart.

It's easy.

"I'm not interested in dating."

Two failed marriages and two failed serious relationships besides that... It's not for me. If I feel the need to hookup. I can hookup. And I certainly don't want to do that with my friend's friends where a reputation develops with people I enjoy being around.

[Mr_Blank]

I deserve to be single, I don’t know what I did to deserve to be lonely