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Yew Nough 20 juil. 2023 à 10h29
Emotional Baggage
I was reading a book that described it as something that 'stops' you as a person.

Like you've developed feelings or beliefs in response to something, but that something had disappeared a long time ago..and you now find yourself in a new situation still feeling and believing these 'things'.

(And these 'things' make you feel out of place everywhere you go, because they never reflect the current moment.)

Is this accurate?
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Yew Nough a écrit :
Is this accurate?
Usually i hear about it when it´s about relationships. So You´re not really over the relationship, even if it´s (long) gone. If used as a general baggage, as combination of everything You ever experienced in life - it´s rarely used. Perhaps to describe that everyone has it´s faults, but the saying goes that everybody has his baggage to carry, without the focus on "emotional".

But with it it´s more like people trying to start a new relationship, but always compare the new person with the former one, or tells stories about them, or something like it.

That would be the same as the "red flag" statement before.

I´m unsure what it has to do with pseudo-psychology or excuse for accountability. But perhaps it´s used differently in English. Because You say "everywhere You go" - so i´m unsure in which other cases it would have severe effect. But it´s annoying for a new partner, or a potential new partner, to hear such stories about a past relationship, which is more than one would talk about these things usually, as one "should" be focused on a "new" life, and a new future with another partner.

If it´s more than that, or You can´t overcome it even if You try - i would probably suggest professional help. But imho the easiest way to overcome a past relationship is to start a new one. But then again i´m not really the "emotional baggage" guy, as i need a day or two to get over something and then the past is the past and i look forward.
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Your_White_Knight 20 juil. 2023 à 10h32 
Yew Nough a écrit :
Emotional Baggage

I was reading a book that described it as something that 'stops' you as a person.

Like you've developed feelings or beliefs in response to something, but that something had disappeared a long time ago..and you now find yourself in a new situation still feeling and believing these 'things'.

(And these 'things' make you feel out of place everywhere you go, because they never reflect the current moment.)

Is this accurate?

Sounds like a lot of pseudo psychology... something to blame and make excuses for...
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xAlphaStarOmegax 20 juil. 2023 à 10h33 
For me, I've always believed in God and the Bible. I've also believed in some conspiracy theories for years now, so it's not baggage for me.
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Yew Nough 20 juil. 2023 à 10h38 
Your_White_Knight a écrit :
Sounds like a lot of pseudo psychology... something to blame and make excuses for...
What would you describe as emotional baggage?
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Your_White_Knight 20 juil. 2023 à 10h44 
Yew Nough a écrit :
Your_White_Knight a écrit :
Sounds like a lot of pseudo psychology... something to blame and make excuses for...
What would you describe as emotional baggage?

I just did...
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Yew Nough 20 juil. 2023 à 10h48 
Your_White_Knight a écrit :
Yew Nough a écrit :
What would you describe as emotional baggage?

I just did...
https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Transference

Found the term for it, I'm all set :mhwgood:
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skOsH♥ 20 juil. 2023 à 10h53 
Everyone has it

The goal, is to try to forget about it. Easier said than done, in some cases
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Fake 20 juil. 2023 à 11h33 
Emotional Baggage = Excuse to avoid Accountability
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Vinz Clortho 20 juil. 2023 à 11h39 
Three characteristics of all experienced phenomena:

1. Constantly changing
2. Never feel fully & completely satisfying
3. Are not the experiencer
Dernière modification de Vinz Clortho; 20 juil. 2023 à 11h39
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40000Aggro 20 juil. 2023 à 19h11 
No idea.
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Kris 20 juil. 2023 à 19h17 
Your_White_Knight a écrit :
Sounds like a lot of pseudo psychology... something to blame and make excuses for...

People defend or make excuses for emotional baggage? First I've heard of this. I've always seen it labeled as a "red flag" when someone enters any kind of relationship with it. Due to the toxicity that can result from baggage or trauma, I see very few people with the patience for it.
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Your_White_Knight 20 juil. 2023 à 19h20 
Ditto a écrit :
Your_White_Knight a écrit :
Sounds like a lot of pseudo psychology... something to blame and make excuses for...

People defend or make excuses for emotional baggage? First I've heard of this. I've always seen it labeled as a "red flag" when someone enters any kind of relationship with it. Due to the toxicity that can result from baggage or trauma, I see very few people with the patience for it.

This:

Fake a écrit :
Emotional Baggage = Excuse to avoid Accountability
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Ghost Robertson 20 juil. 2023 à 19h21 
xAlphaStarOmegax a écrit :
For me, I've always believed in God and the Bible. I've also believed in some conspiracy theories for years now, so it's not baggage for me.

I feel I'm quite honest with that, I have absolutely no idea if God is real or if anything in the bible is real. I just go about my life normally and if something like the rapture happens then that's ok too.
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Slim 20 juil. 2023 à 19h23 
Emotional baggage is literally just negativity that you've experienced and held onto. Others here are confusing this with how someone manages their baggage.
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Kris 20 juil. 2023 à 19h28 
Slim a écrit :
Emotional baggage is literally just negativity that you've experienced and held onto. Others here are confusing this with how someone manages their baggage.

Fair point.
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Your_White_Knight 20 juil. 2023 à 19h35 
Slim a écrit :
Emotional baggage is literally just negativity that you've experienced and held onto. Others here are confusing this with how someone manages their baggage.

No...

Because that's just believing "everyone has it"... that's not some anchor "everyone" carries around guiding what they do in life... "manage(ing)" their "baggage" or not"...

Some of us don't claim "emotional baggage" because we don't have it... some of us move on because that's the mentally healthy thing to do and we don't need it to excuse our actions
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