How to cope when your sister gets married?

[I'm_Tired]

Sister and I are close as siblings. We grew up and rely on each other for support together.

It hurts me knowing she won't be home with us (me and parent) anymore.

She won't be the same (?) after having a new life with her soon to be husband that I refuse to get along except the occasional forced greets just for the "appearance" to avoid my pissing parents off.

I'm not sure I can cope knowing she won't be home and her room will be empty, it just doesn't feel right.

[Bomb Shot]

引用自 Sleepy：

引用自 Leitwolf：

I hope you manage though and that your sister gets happy without a controlling and jealous brother making her life hell.

I'm just sad that home won't be lively as before.

Damn, my mum used to tell me to find one or loneliness will kill you when you get old.

A pet cat can help better than people sometimes.

[I'm_Tired]

I just want to be clear to avoid any confusion.

I never get involved in their relationship. Only parents knows this because they just know.

[Marius]

You know wshe will have a live on her own, so will you do in the near future. Then you both drift apart into your own families and lives. Remember the days, weeks, months and years you shared together. Eventually you meet up every year on birthdays of families, maybe go out for a weekend, share holidays, like christmas, etc. It's part of life.

[Shiro♌]

引用自 Leitwolf：

引用自 Shiro♌：

Certainly, that does sound shocking and makes it sound even worse.
How come, you're still trying to live in a fairytale? At this age, you should've been many years aware of how things work in reality.

I do understand that saying goodbye to your loved ones is difficult, but the more you think about it, the worse it's gonna get.
It sounds like you don't wanna accept her decision to live her life and want her to remain in your life for some more time even if it were to hinder her for the sake of your own benefit.

" I do understand that saying goodbye to your loved ones is difficult, "

You make it sound like she is gone..as in gone gone.

She is just getting married, a happy moment in one's life and moves in with the love of her life.
He can visit anytime.

I am assuming he acts very hostile towards his sister's husband hence he knows she probably won't have him around once she leaves this control f... reach.

Looking at your screenshots and artwork is certainly reason for concern.

That's what I've thought when I was typing out the response.. But it is kind of alike.
Their bond may remain strong forever, but they'll never behave alike and how they've used to, making it difficult for their to-today interactions to ever happen in the future in the same way as they've used to.
If the person changes, the odds of the person really moving on and forgetting about some moments that you do consider precious are there, and.. Memories, personality, and experiences do make the person themself, ain't that right?
Following that logic, she's gone.. But not quite at the same time, as she'll still be there, but won't behave like the person back in the day.

Marriage is a happy moment, indeed, but it may not turn out the way they expect.. So, let's not jump ahead and see it as positively. We don't know the answer to that.
.. The same applies to the later mentioned sentence, and we have no reason to judge OP based on some assumptions, as we have no ways to confirm such assumptions.

I also don't understand what do you mean with or by mentioning artworks and screenshots; Not that it shall matter, as that'd only serve to derail the thread's topic.. At least, as far as I know and how it sounds to me.

[Dracoco OwO]

She was annoying before being married she still is she didn't change much.

[⍚MagusFromHeaven⍚]

That's how your parent's siblings felt when your mom and dad got married.

[MinionJoe]

I had a hilarious reply that might've lightened the mood, but I'd just be banned for it again.

Good luck.

[Downtown DK Company ✅]

You should convince her to marry you instead.

[Downtown DK Company ✅]

What about her future husband do you not like if I may ask? Is it his demeanor, looks, culture, religion?

[Candyy]

引用自 Leitwolf：

引用自 Sleepy：

It's probably going to shock you but i'm in my 30s, my sister is few years younger.

That makes everything even worse!

You are in your 30s and still live with your sister and parents not wanting to let your sister go.... I don't want to judge you here, but this does not make things better in coping with it.

I hope you manage though and that your sister gets happy without a controlling and jealous brother making her life hell.

This is not 1986... Nowadays is normal for even 30 yo to live with parents or brothers...

And being married is also way less common now ,so the sister should be even more happy I guess v:

[Shiro♌]

引用自 Leitwolf：

引用自 Soniaa ♡：

This is not 1986... Nowadays is normal for even 30 yo to live with parents or brothers...

And being married is also way less common now ,so the sister should be even more happy I guess v:

No, it is certainly not normal. Especially not since most 30 yrs old would have a career running since 5 or 10 years already and normally enough money to afford their own premises. Until like 23 if you study, perhaps. But not bloody 30 !!!! Just because there is an increased amount of people who do this and don't want to bloody grow up, does not mean its normal now.

Being married is also not less common. Perhaps a bit ? But still pretty normal in their late 20s.

Oh?
I've thought, it does depend on the education, and that by going through some college, you're already accepting that you won't start working until your 25's, or perhaps even later than that.. Making me only partly disagreeing with your take, as some people do work even sooner because they do pursue job over education by working a job requiring lower education.
Also, Sonia has talked about living with parents, not necessarily about having a job - I feel like those are very different things, considering how expensive living nowadays is, especially renting a place or getting a house..

Marriage is more or less the same, I'm with you here.. Although the amount of divorces has certainly skyrocketed.
It's not like the marriages don't last.. Most do.

[R]

She wasn't the right one for you

[Goose]

bro you need to relax.
your sister is a human with her own autonomy, if she wants to get married, then you can't really stop her.

[I throw ball at you]

Same, two of my sister are getting married. I miss the days where they take care of me. I don't know what to do :/

[Shiro♌]

引用自 Leitwolf：

引用自 Shiro♌：

Oh?
I've thought, it does depend on the education, and that by going through some college, you're already accepting that you won't start working until your 25's, or perhaps even later than that.. Making me only partly disagreeing with your take, as some people do work even sooner because they do pursue job over education by working a job requiring lower education.
Also, Sonia has talked about living with parents, not necessarily about having a job - I feel like those are very different things, considering how expensive living nowadays is, especially renting a place or getting a house..

Marriage is more or less the same, I'm with you here.. Although the amount of divorces has certainly skyrocketed.
It's not like the marriages don't last.. Most do.

One does not study until the age of 30, plus at 30 most people are financially steady enough to at least rent a flat somewhere. That all being put aside, its not a normal urge to want to live with their parents at this age. Most people want privacy and their own life.

When I was 20, I could not wait to move out and made a big jump by leaving the entire country for several years, living abroad.

I also studied quite late, but this never required me to live in my parents house.

What I am saying is, this is clearly not the norm ! People do live with their parents a little longer today due to living costs, but 30 is rare, even in our modern times.

In combination with what the OP has said and by looking at his profile, I can come to the conclusion that the problem is entirely on his side, in his own head and something he needs to figure out by himself. Mentioning that he does not like his sister's husband nor stating why this is the case, just fortifies my assumption.

What?
I can read, it takes four to six years to graduate.
If we assume that just elementary school and highschool do take thirteen years, you're already at your age of twenties and you do gotta get to the college, making it a range of ~24 - 26 years.
So, yes, one does kinda study „until thirties“, and let's not talk about how they don't even get hired because they do lack the experiences within the field they have studied for.
They'd rather hire less educated people, with more experiences, resulting in having to pay them less because they don't deserve as much due to their education level.

Good for you that you've been lucky enough to be financially stable so early, but this generation isn't so lucky, and so you shouldn't projecting your experiences onto them because we do no longer live in the times when and where living was affordable if you've taken a part job while studying.
Thirties is very much acceptable, as one has to make money for it in the first place.. And even if the person has managed to graduate from college while studying the medicine, it's gonna take them over six years to make enough to afford a house.
Sure, paying a rent would be of an option, but that doesn't get people who don't earn as much as doctors do anywhere, taking in mind the global inflation and how expensive even food and electricity bills have gotten in the past three years.

I haven't taken a look at OP's profile because I do very much doubt, it'd have helped me to gather some more insight and understand his situation.
I'd need to know some personal informations, and there's no way I'm asking for something I don't even care about and get into their privacy.