How would you feel if someone was obsessed/stalking you?

[Dwolfin]

Would you do anything? How would you feel about it?

[Basarab Laiota]

idk im not that good at accepting compliments

[Shiro♌]

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In the beginning, I'd be scared to death.. So, the first step would be finding more about that creepy stalker of mine, finding out whether the person's dangerous or not, as well as taking some necessary security measures in case I'd have managed to run out of time.

Dependable on the results, I'd be able to decide what to do next.. But if the person wouldn't be dangerous whatsoever, I'd be kinda happy, and would give them a chance to prove themself.

yeah that makes sense, i 'd probably do the same.

but instead of teasing them,
i would confront them and let them know i'm single and ready to mingle :Tsubaki:

It's not like I'd have teased them.. I'm a very honest person, so even if I were to try to tease them, I'd have failed and embarrassed myself. What a way to start..

Opprinnelig skrevet av 🐬 Dwolfin 🐺:

I guess be careful who you get close to. Not that its ever in your control. Not that its ever in your control. Sometimes, sometimes people just end up liking you a lot anyways. It could even be just seeing your face.

Yes, somewhat - I do refuse to believe, people'd have started to like me just by seeing me for the first time.
That has never been the case for me, and so I don't believe in such a possibility.

[Dwolfin]

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idk im not that good at accepting compliments

idk you seem pretty good at accepting them to me (see now this is the part where you practice)

[Dwolfin]

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yeah that makes sense, i 'd probably do the same.

but instead of teasing them,
i would confront them and let them know i'm single and ready to mingle :Tsubaki:

It's not like I'd have teased them.. I'm a very honest person, so even if I were to try to tease them, I'd have failed and embarrassed myself. What a way to start.. :erune:

Opprinnelig skrevet av 🐬 Dwolfin 🐺:

I guess be careful who you get close to. Not that its ever in your control.

Yes, exactly.

Can't go schizo over it, just gotta not get to close to some people.
Dont jump into relationships, gotta ease into these things.

Also, scenarios you cant control you cant control, someone could see you and bam they are obsessed and start stalking you. Unlikely but could happen, if things escalate I recommend pepper spray or the ol trusty glock when needed.

Similar to Skyrim, it just works.

[Grimmz]

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It's not like I'd have teased them.. I'm a very honest person, so even if I were to try to tease them, I'd have failed and embarrassed myself. What a way to start.. :erune:

Yes, exactly.

Can't go schizo over it, just gotta not get to close to some people.
Dont jump into relationships, gotta ease into these things.

Also, scenarios you cant control you cant control, someone could see you and bam they are obsessed and start stalking you. Unlikely but could happen, I recommend pepper spray or the ol trusty glock ayup ayup when needed, it just works. lol

i could use a bit of relationship action. i haven't dated for like 15 years cos i never leave my house cos i'm a nerd.

well guns are illegal here, but i'm a big dude so i can handle any creep. basicly cos i'm a bigger creep myself. i just don't like violence, i'll just hug em to death, give em a big ol bear hug.

[Dwolfin]

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Can't go schizo over it, just gotta not get to close to some people.
Dont jump into relationships, gotta ease into these things.

Also, scenarios you cant control you cant control, someone could see you and bam they are obsessed and start stalking you. Unlikely but could happen, I recommend pepper spray or the ol trusty glock ayup ayup when needed, it just works. lol

i could use a bit of relationship action. i haven't dated for like 15 years cos i never leave my house cos i'm a nerd.

well guns are illegal here, but i'm a big dude so i can handle any creep. basicly cos i'm a bigger creep myself. i just don't like violence, i'll just hug em to death, give em a big ol bear hug.

relatable, and also sounds like a wonderful non america moment. Believe me when I say I would rather not play that game but when you live somewhere where there are more of them than people you gotta play the game sometimes possibly.

[Dom]

A good point made in this thread is that obsession can lead to a lot of harm and damage.

It's one thing to just idolize someone and that in itself is harmless but people who are too obsessed tend to, sometimes, make very irrational decisions. It's why there are so many cases of assaults, harassment and stalking in the first place.

If things get too crazy, then the only option is to ignore everything because if you give even an inch to someone who's obsessed, they'll take things to extreme level.

[Dwolfin]

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A good point made in this thread is that obsession can lead to a lot of harm and damage.

It's one thing to just idolize someone and that in itself is harmless but people who are too obsessed tend to, sometimes, make very irrational decisions. It's why there are so many cases of assaults, harassment and stalking in the first place.

If things get too crazy, then the only option is to ignore everything because if you give even an inch to someone who's obsessed, they'll take things to extreme level.

Thats why when it gets to that point, when you feel like the best thing you can do is talk to them and try to help, dont its a trap. You cannot do anything, the best you can do is remove yourself from the situation and hope that they have family or will seek the help they need.

[Dwolfin]

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Opprinnelig skrevet av 🐬 Dwolfin 🐺:

Im aware it was an example. My point was when was I saying anything like that?

Well, since you asked, you didn't know what it was or didn't understand in where it came from or what I was after.

I see you have hard time in understanding my point.

So, If you say:

Opprinnelig skrevet av 🐬 Dwolfin 🐺:

"Had images of you in their house? Your image on a body pillow, your name always in their mind. They lived and breathed you, in a very creepy fashion. Many celebrates experience this, as well as some people when they meet the wrong person"

It isn't self-explanatory. Your idea, I mean. That's why I presented you an example of a possible misconception that could also be the thing in here and I used that as an example for possible "Was I saying anything like that?"

If you think this through... you kinda were saying that. Not about Taylor Swift per se, but I believe you get the gist. After all, again, your original post was:

Opprinnelig skrevet av 🐬 Dwolfin 🐺:

"Had images of you in their house? Your image on a body pillow, your name always in their mind. They lived and breathed you, in a very creepy fashion. Many celebrates experience this, as well as some people when they meet the wrong person"

Opprinnelig skrevet av 🐬 Dwolfin 🐺:

What I was trying to say was when did I say anyone having picture and blah blah blah of people made them freaks? Never did.

That I did not get. And freak was my term. Not yours. I decided to call them freaks. Those stalking type weirdos, who steal lint from washing machines and stay up on trees binoc'ing you. Again, those are my terms, my figure of speeches. Not yours. :badik_quinn:

Opprinnelig skrevet av 🐬 Dwolfin 🐺:

I just am saying its quite disturbing from their perspective, or even yours if it were you. Thats all I am saying.

And all that I am saying (well, it is not all but more of a point) that don't take everything as an attack towards you. I was talking about the matter. Trying to give you my insights about it. And maybe give you a thought that things are not always so black/white.

But you are simply misunderstanding me. I will once again state I never said such a thing. I asked what people thought of it, and I was talking about how I think its unnerving (from experience btw) that is all I said nothing more nothing less.

[☮ne✟rue𝓢ax☯n]

I wouldn't know as nobody has ever "loved" me enough to turn creepy obsessive on me.

I think Irene would be best placed to answer this question, as she unfortunately seems to be suffering from a case of the creepy obsessive right now.

[Abaddon the Despoiler]

I've had it a couple of times. One went as far as breaking into my place and stealing my stuff.
Another reported me for rape because I wouldn't sleep with her. Luckily she had a habit of doing that so the police dropped it after speaking to me once.

Not really a lot you can do about it except avoid the person in question. It can happen to anybody.

[Dwolfin]

Opprinnelig skrevet av ☮ne✟rue𝓢ax☯n:

I wouldn't know as nobody has ever "loved" me enough to turn creepy obsessive on me.

I think Irene would be best placed to answer this question, as she unfortunately seems to be suffering from a case of the creepy obsessive right now.

Relatable. I've tried to push that guys threads down, but some keep giving the sad sack of ♥♥♥♥ attention

[eram]

had someone like that on steam this week. they had to be dealt with by the authorities. Must have been a shock for them.

[PurpleBeast]

I watch you in your sleep

[Apollo702]

I feel for Irene right now.

Until someone has had it happen it's all academic.