How can I stop being so toxic when I'm gaming?

[Zoomii]

I've always been a really bad sport. I remember a few times in elementary school, for example, where my team would lose a game of dodgeball or something in PE and I would physically attack people from the other team. While I got over that stage, it has kind of transitioned into toxicity while I'm gaming.

Here's an example: I'm playing an FPS. If my team is winning/wins I'm typically really nice, throwing out a "good game" or something like that. However, if my team is losing/loses, that changes to horrible trash talk, which typically includes some genuinely horrible words. I always feel bad afterward to an extent, but I also get extremely angry. I don't want to be this pile of nuclear waste that explodes when my team loses, but I don't know how to stop it.

I need help. I used to play games with a lot of friends, but my toxicity drove them away. I want to improve my attitude but I don't know how. Anyone got any ideas.

Edit: Nice necro

[agu]

Disable the chat hotkey before you get banned from everything, games are getting really strict about trash-talking

[Tiberius]

Seems like your anger issue is not limited to gaming. Yea i suggest looking for anger management therapy

[Rio]

Nothing wrong with getting rekt by an alpha.

[𝕎𝔸𝕃𝕋𝔼ℝ]

Take the game lightly and giggle everytime someone whiffs in your team it really makes the game fun

[agu]

I wish I was an alpha gamer

[Yew Nough]

It's a game: It's meant to be fun and enjoyable.
If it stops being fun, don't play it.
Also, you can't take games seriously, it's just improvisation. You will gain or lose nothing in life except time by engaging in these.

That being said,

Messaggio originale di Zoomii:

I remember a few times in elementary school, for example, where my team would lose a game of dodgeball or something in PE and I would physically attack people from the other team.

...that's dedication.

[Meove]

dont talk. just remember, game is for fun, not to torture your mind

[Defenestration]

If you hate it so much, you'll naturally change. Understand that being toxic does nothing but bring your team's mentality down, thus you're more likely to lose since they may leave or throw the game. Some are trying their best after all.

The most important part is having fun. People who have fun should try to win, but shouldn't care about losing. As a start on practicing eliminating your toxicity, maybe muting your mic and cursing at nothing could work.

[AD]

That you acknowledge you have a problem is a good first step. For the next I would suggest anger management and a boxing bag you can unleash on.

Another idea is to take a step back and play something less competitive for a while. Try and learn to have fun, regardless if you're winning or loosing (which is why I suggest less competitive games).

Messaggio originale di FatFatalFelix:

Just be toxic, you have the right to be you as you are. And if the others can't accept that they are just bigots and try to dominate you.

Accepting who you are doesn't mean you shouldn't try and stop behaving in bad ways, especially if you yourself don't like it to begin with. Being toxic isn't a good thing.

[Birds]

As everyone has said, you cannot.

It’s not up to you what you do with your fingers, or your voice.

[Bob The Builder]

if you aint having fun then close the game, no point in playing if your not having fun.

[Z]

Play single player game, switch to other game or hobbies for a while.

[=CrimsoN=]

Maybe you should question why you are getting upset? Is it the fact that you are losing? I don't mind losing if it feels fair and was a well played match. I can't stand feeling like I'm carrying a team while being completely stomped by a team that is clearly stacked.

or is it just the act of losing that makes you upset?

[Azza ☠]

Stop considering a lost as failure, but rather take it as a lesson to learn and develop upon.

If you can figure that out, it's what separates the pros from the noobs.

You see, they are always clear headed and quite relaxed while gaming, then win or lose, thinking in the back of their mind how to improve on a mistake or two. A mistake is actually quite fine and how you learn quicker. It's the not repeating the same mistake which you should be focused more upon.

Some people are doomed to try avoid mistakes and scapegoat blame something else for it, etc. They fear making a mistake. Therefore they repeat it over. They don't even see themselves doing it, but it's that loop which is the actual frustration. Not just a single lost.

[Bobert]

The necro tho.