Is it rude to ask someone if they want a gift?

[Emilio]

Sometimes I ask my brother or sister and some close friends if they want me to give them something they mentioned a while ago. So I ask if they still want it and often get no as an answer, but it's honestly hard to tell if they think it's rude to accept and by extention rude of me to ask the question or if they no longer want the thing they mentioned some weeks/months ago.

[Violeta]

no

[agu]

Hm I don't think it's rude but I doubt anyone would say that they want a gift even if they do

[Emperor of Destruction]

I tend to do something similar. I like to give people free meals, occasional gifts.

Co-workers, family members, whatever

From what I've been told it puts them on the spot and they feel like they have to return in kind and they might not feel close enough socially to do that or they don't want to feel financially obligated to return the favor.

At least that's what I've been told so I just kind of stopped doing it.

[Logan]

Nope

[Xero_Daxter]

It's actually disrespectful to refuse a gift in Asian Culture. Sooooo.....

[Violeta]

｢King of Nothing｣ eredeti hozzászólása:

I tend to do something similar. I like to give people free meals, occasional gifts.

Co-workers, family members, whatever

From what I've been told it puts them on the spot and they feel like they have to return in kind and they might not feel close enough socially to do that or they don't want to feel financially obligated to return the favor.

At least that's what I've been told so I just kind of stopped doing it.

Just remember who's a bad gift reciever. And don't offer those people any more.

Certain people just get so worked up, over nothing,

[Xautos]

Emilio eredeti hozzászólása:

Is it rude to ask someone if they want a gift?

why should it be? there is no way to know if someone wants a gift or not unless you ask if they want it.

[Kaylia MoonRaven]

I wouldnt say its rude, however my experience is that about 99% of the time when a man wanna gift a woman something, its never just to gift, they always expect or want something in return.. so it can be offensive because most of us women have gotten used to it being like that.. again, depends on the person/s..

U can always ask them directly, "Do u find it offensive (or do u get offended) if i ask u to buy u a gift?"

U can look at the wish list and choose from there, one would assume that items on wish lists are wants, or at least interested in them in some way, may just be following the development..

Also, u can only be responsible for the reason u give gifts, not how others receive it or interpret it..

[𝕎𝔸𝕃𝕋𝔼ℝ]

Nah dude feel free to ask me

[Alaskan Catfish Hike]

Some of my friends and I will randomly prime each other stuff. Doesn’t hurt to ask.

[AdahnGorion]

⛧黒い虹⛧ eredeti hozzászólása:

no

[Adversary]

A truly generous person does not have to ask if they are generous, nor do they need to ask to be generous. If you wish to give someone something, pay attention to what they like, what they dislike, and what they may desire at the moment. Then, when the opportunity arises for you to be such, take it.

Though keep in mind some people do not like being given things - I am one such person, I absolutely dislike being given anything I didn't ask for, nor anything I didn't specifically earn. Pay heed to what their personality might show in that regard.

[Birds]

Xero_Daxter eredeti hozzászólása:

It's actually disrespectful to refuse a gift in Asian Culture. Sooooo.....

In some places it's also disrespectful to accept a gift, and disrespectful to pressure someone into giving or accepting a gift.

Really hate that aspect of the culture, leads to so many shenanigans.

[Azza ☠]

Depends on the person and the reason for the gift...

I personally don't find it offensive, that person might really want and need something, which you could gift them and they would actually use on a daily basis. Compared to something random which they just say 'thanks' and then never use.

With anything gifting and even more own purchases, I always tend to consider if it's something I would use regularly or not. Something with lots of usage I consider more worthwhile.

[Emilio]

ᚨᛞᚡᛖᚱᛋᚨᚱᛃ eredeti hozzászólása:

A truly generous person does not have to ask if they are generous, nor do they need to ask to be generous. If you wish to give someone something, pay attention to what they like, what they dislike, and what they may desire at the moment. Then, when the opportunity arises for you to be such, take it.

Though keep in mind some people do not like being given things - I am one such person, I absolutely dislike being given anything I didn't ask for, nor anything I didn't specifically earn. Pay heed to what their personality might show in that regard.

Im not doing it to be generous or to hold myself in very high regard as a generous person.
But like if my brother mentions a game 4 weeks ago and it's on sale today I simply asks him if he still wants it and get a no.
Like I am not going to go out of my way to watch my family's spending habits day in and day out to make constant purchases for them, just a little thing now and again.