Got banned for ranting about my own personal issues and my parents.

[Vincent]

Long story short, I kept getting banned from some video game discord servers for ranting about my family's anger issues that I tried not to vent (But did because apparently people listening to me must be some kinda human sacrifice based on how reluctant they are)

And now there are at least 3 servers I got banned from with no appeal chances whatsoever.

I'm sorry for having such horrible anger management issues and horrible anxiety whenever I get pressured from my dad. (And then after saying this, I am half expecting to get banned from here as well, since after reading this you would be very hard pressed to not grab the ban hammer)

[Dominic]

Felix Argyle eredeti hozzászólása:

Dominic eredeti hozzászólása:

Depends on the reason about why your dad is mad at you.

He's mad at me for not knowing what to do. (Not knowing how to repair the washing machine cables)

I see. That is nothing to be upset with their own kid about in my opinion.

[Χάρης]

In other words, OP is a troll who got trolled so he can troll while he gets trolled?

[Harry Gumdropzap]

i dont think i can give you any advice but i can probably tell you why your getting banned... if your telling us the full story
coming in a server and pouring your problems is none of their business and do not want to know, its usually associated with more toxic types of people
you know those types who have trust issues, but more on the other end where they trust everyone

[Vincent]

Harry Gumdropzap eredeti hozzászólása:

i dont think i can give you any advice but i can probably tell you why your getting banned... if your telling us the full story
coming in a server and pouring your problems is none of their business and do not want to know, its usually associated with more toxic types of people
you know those types who have trust issues, but more on the other end where they trust everyone

Well given that I have no "real" friends, I think that trusting strangers is one of the more common symptoms.

[Vincent]

Xautos eredeti hozzászólása:

Χάρης eredeti hozzászólása:

can you explain a little more detailed what's going on? Is your father an alcoholic? Does he physically beat you?

It's more than likely he is too proud to seek or ask for help and expects you to help him without asking.

He doesn't want you controlling his life or he'll create an issue out of it ending up with him not speaking to you.

He won't help you unless you ask for it.

He won't show love or affection directly to you because he expects you to respond to the tough love approach.

You'll be dead wrong, because I do not expect someone to care for me.
To answer the quote, no, my dad's not an alcoholic, and he does not physically abuse me. He's just a man with too much ego and kept blaming my mother for absolutely every misfortune happening in the house. (Even though all of them was the result of my grandma thinking that "not intervening with our family issues = death")

[captainwiseass]

Learn to compartmentalize. Five cents, please.

[Violeta]

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=jEVlz_ND9j4

Anger can be pretty destructive. I remember my life improved by leaps and bounds once I lived on my own.

Sometimes two people set each other off. And you can ask and beg the one who's usually setting the other off and they still probably will. For me it also was the grandmother behind it all. And it only got solved once she eventually passed.


Blaming, thats one hard habit to break. Cuz everyone wants to be right. And if something starts out as someone's fault, then your like right by default.

[Ⓥenom Ⓢnake 🐍]

people who are doing something to kind of chill and talk to people don't really want to put up with an angry person who wants to rant about how their family is angry.

Maybe find a discord server where people want to talk about their family issues. There's got to be more than a few.

[GetToTheTop]

So the mods did their job correctly and banned you? And you think this is unfair?

[Azza ☠]

As we have learnt from South Park, everyone has anxiety issues and it's just an excuse to act in such a way.

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=khCfk8Z_jbE

[Priest]

Its really simple

You pay real money to have a gameserver
You invest really many hours to keep it running
You are happy that you have enough decent players

Someone join your server and behave so bad that you loose good player.

If you are not completly stupid you will bann that guy asap.
That easy


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For you i can only suggest to find a way to manage your issues.
If you are 18+ i guess its time to move in a own home

[Xautos]

Felix Argyle eredeti hozzászólása:

Xautos eredeti hozzászólása:

It's more than likely he is too proud to seek or ask for help and expects you to help him without asking.

He doesn't want you controlling his life or he'll create an issue out of it ending up with him not speaking to you.

He won't help you unless you ask for it.

He won't show love or affection directly to you because he expects you to respond to the tough love approach.

You'll be dead wrong, because I do not expect someone to care for me.

Expectation or not for your belief makes no difference. So if that is where your head is at on the issue? only thing i can suggest is focusing on the issue and not the emotional fallout, otherwise this conversation you want will go nowhere.

[ToeTaggerJoe]

Felix Argyle eredeti hozzászólása:

Dominic eredeti hozzászólása:

Depends on the reason about why your dad is mad at you.

He's mad at me for not knowing what to do. (Not knowing how to repair the washing machine cables)

Do you mean the hoses? Youtube it.

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=ejDUXoSO190

[Vincent]

WildeJ eredeti hozzászólása:

Felix Argyle eredeti hozzászólása:

He's mad at me for not knowing what to do. (Not knowing how to repair the washing machine cables)

Do you mean the hoses? Youtube it.

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=ejDUXoSO190

No, its the power cable.

[idester]

Felix Argyle eredeti hozzászólása:

Ancestxr eredeti hozzászólása:

it's video game discord servers, people just want to play video games and stuff there really, unless if there is a #venting channel I don't see an issue, it's so people doesn't put the weight of the knowledge of other people onto them

whatever you do, I personally don't want to vent in discords because it's an easy target for you to get cyberbullied, instead call a hotline incase your about to burst, seek therapy if you have to, with you and your family, it's the healthiest thing

wherever you are and whatever situation your in with you and your family I wish for you the best, please just use common sense to see which discord servers are appropriate and inappropriate to talk about this.

Given prior experiences, I can say that I definitely do not carry any bit of common sense.

About finding therapy, I'm afraid that's not an option. I'm 20 now, and you can already guess where this is going. (Dad is too stubborn to get any therapy and is convinced that they're all scams trying to take our money for little effort)

since your 20, I do suggest when your working save some money offchance so you could afford therapy (since you have to spend money to fix your mental health which is stupid, the government should fund therapists) although your dad is saying no which is pretty stupid when it comes to their child's health, I would just prove him wrong, and if he says that your wasting your time, tell him to go ♥♥♥♥ himself for him not being supportive of your brain and your body