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18 year old dating a 16 year old?
do y'all think that's weird? whats your max age difference in your mind.
Originally posted by AdahnGorion:
Originally posted by Starbug:
Originally posted by Darkie:

They could, if it was of own choice and families supported it or did not care. If the 50 year old was a female teacher and the 16 year old a boy student in her class, then it would be illigal. Again it depends on the "auhority" situation and if there is any type of taking advantage of, if they are not present then age does not matter, as long as it is within the law.

But most people would frown upon that ofc, because people have set values.

There has to be an assumption that when an adult begins a relationship with a child that there's been a large element of grooming beforehand.

There's no way on earth a 14 year old should be in a sexual relationship with someone that much older than them. To frame that as "love" would be ignorant of the prior manipulation of the child by a controlling adult.

I'm honestly shocked that apparently civilised European countries still class a 14 year old child as being capable of entering into a relationship of this type with a person that age.

My niece is 14 and if she was in this sort of relationship with a man twice her age, he'd be getting a surprise visit from her dad and myself to have a small chat. With that small chat being an euphemism for threats of extreme violence to follow should he fail to leave her alone.
Edit. No need to make further debate, since it will just stir a huge debate without much meaning.

Let me just close it by saying, that in the OP's case I think it is perfectly fine and natural
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MEGA MAN Feb 26, 2020 @ 2:23am 
Originally posted by Best Boy:
Originally posted by NoodleSpark:
age is just a number

And jail is just a place

Aye caramba i hope u have 30 cm space! (hey dat even ryhmes!)
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Radene Feb 26, 2020 @ 3:10am 
Originally posted by Dahlia Hawthorne:
The rule is simple: half your age+7 = the age limit

so 18 with a 16 is fine (where it's legal)

That's no "rule", it's a meme.
wubbelflup Feb 26, 2020 @ 3:17am 
the age of consent is 16 in my country.

two year difference is really small. it's okay.
especially if both sides are equally developed. and you're not manipulating her ofc. (duh)

don't let people tell you you're a pdo or something. that's just stupid. unless she's really childlike and you're basically a adult. but i assume that's not the case ;)
Pocahawtness Feb 26, 2020 @ 4:00am 
Originally posted by Gus the Crocodile:
Originally posted by 「C❤️A」 Pocahawtness:
No, really, it isn't. It MIGHT be, but also it might be a caring, loving relationship. You can't just say that all 16/24 relationships are predatory. They aren't. Apart from anything else, the law doesn't think so, because in most of the world it's perfectly legal.
I'm not here to discuss the law; the thread topic wasn't "is it legal". Indeed I'd say that if someone in or past their twenties is 'dating' someone so much younger than them that they feel the need to cite the law, that's a red flag in itself.

Originally posted by Darkie:
By your argument, predatory behaviour could also be for a 30 year old to find a 24 year old, most 24 year olds have not fully developed their identity yet, most on 30 have.
Uh, no, that is not "my argument" at all. That's an entirely different scenario that I haven't commented on. A 24 year old is not a child. The age difference there isn't like two-thirds of one party's entire life.

I'm really not bothered if any 26 year olds ♥♥♥♥♥♥♥ year 10 kids think I'm being unreasonable.

I think you are reacting too strongly to me mentioning the law. The law is very often just the view of the public and it was in this vein that I mentioned it. You seem to think that 16 is a child. The law does not, and nor do I. 16 year olds can make up their own minds about relationships and if one wants to date 50 year old that's up to to them. Although, having said that, the parents still have a large degree of control over a 16 year old and if they suspect something is wrong they can take action. I mean I guess I just don't see the point in the question. No, I don't see anything wrong, because I don't know the people involved and certainly I would not condemn a relationships on a mere two year age difference.
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Starbug Feb 26, 2020 @ 5:27am 
Originally posted by The_Unknown_05:
Originally posted by GuRu Asaki:
@The_Unknown_05

Then your country would have issues with @MyEinsamkeit
because they dated people around 30 years older... o_@
I know someone who is 28 and is dating 14years old.. while I think its strange, in majority of european countries it can be only punished under certain circumstances and they both got declared in their case as legit

What the actual ♥♥♥♥. Which European country is this?
Qavemann Feb 26, 2020 @ 5:31am 
18 to 16 feels alright to me, it's just a 2 year difference. But again it all depends on your country's age of consent
reg1s7 Feb 26, 2020 @ 5:36am 
2 years difference is normal.
About 18 and 16, I personally think they are too young to start serious relationship.
Val Feb 26, 2020 @ 5:50am 
Originally posted by Starbug:
What the actual ♥♥♥♥. Which European country is this?

The legal age of consent is 14 in half of EU so it's legal for an old person to do it with a 14 year old in half the EU member states.
Starbug Feb 26, 2020 @ 5:55am 
Originally posted by Valzeras:
Originally posted by Starbug:
What the actual ♥♥♥♥. Which European country is this?

The legal age of consent is 14 in half of EU so it's legal for an old person to do it with a 14 year old in half the EU member states.

A 28 year old "dating" a 14 year old is predatory and vile.
AdahnGorion Feb 26, 2020 @ 7:06am 
Originally posted by Valzeras:
Originally posted by Starbug:
What the actual ♥♥♥♥. Which European country is this?

The legal age of consent is 14 in half of EU so it's legal for an old person to do it with a 14 year old in half the EU member states.

Unless you misuse your position of auhority, power, manipulate. Again it really depends on the nature of the "relationship" and how developed the two are. A 17 year old dating a 23 year old ie, would be pretty normal, a 35 year old teacher dating her/his student at 16, now that would be punished, not because of the age, but because of the circumstances and laws.



Originally posted by Starbug:
Originally posted by Valzeras:

The legal age of consent is 14 in half of EU so it's legal for an old person to do it with a 14 year old in half the EU member states.

A 28 year old "dating" a 14 year old is predatory and vile.

I've seen 16 year olds (I have done this myself) go for a match above 22 and also 25.. Why? well because it really depends on the persons maturity, development and what they seek.. But the vast majority of time people date in the 14-19 spectrum once they hit 20 or above, alot also wants someone close to their age, like 18 or 22. It also depends alot on what you are doing, if you are studying at an institution where the age gab is higher, then chances are you will find relationships in bigger gabs, if all are 17 and 18, then chances are it will be around that..

We are formed by the societies we live in, also the little ones, thus every case would differ.. I am sure we can find alot of problematic situations as well, even when the age gab is not much.
Cheesecake Feb 26, 2020 @ 7:10am 
What about in California?
Azza ☠ Feb 26, 2020 @ 7:31am 
Originally posted by Valzeras:
Originally posted by Starbug:
What the actual ♥♥♥♥. Which European country is this?

The legal age of consent is 14 in half of EU so it's legal for an old person to do it with a 14 year old in half the EU member states.

Having a legal age of consent at 14 is probably a good thing. A boy hits puberty around the age of 12-14 and is ready by that age. All an increase of the legal age is actually doing is burying it under a rub for their own support/help, if required. If a 14 year old is going to have sex, they will do so against the law anyways, it's not going to stop that... all it does is stop them asking for help and advice if they need it, because they assume they will be legally in trouble.

The age gap is more questionable. Then there's an illusion that as age increases the gap can also increase with it.

A few years gap between ages is fine. However, that acceptable age gap increases greatly when older, yet people don't see any issue with that. For example: I would personally ban a 21 year old dating a 68 year old, etc. That to me is more an issue. Are they taking advantage or is it actual love? Most celebrates and famous people end up with a 24 year gap between them. Even Trump has a 24 year gap between Melania, etc. With assumed wealth and power, the age gap becomes greater. Just take a look for yourself at all the famous actors, etc.
Last edited by Azza ☠; Feb 26, 2020 @ 7:38am
JobeGardener Feb 26, 2020 @ 7:34am 
People like to make excuses for pedophiles and this is just a few more.
Azza ☠ Feb 26, 2020 @ 7:41am 
Originally posted by JobeGardener:
People like to make excuses for pedophiles and this is just a few more.

Hense the age gap correction, allowing a few years only between the two individuals. It would resolve that as well, even with a low age of consent. It would just be bias to apply to younger and not the older as well. People like to make excuses for gold diggers?
Starbug Feb 26, 2020 @ 8:02am 
Originally posted by Azza ☠:
Originally posted by JobeGardener:
People like to make excuses for pedophiles and this is just a few more.

Hense the age gap correction, allowing a few years only between the two individuals. It would resolve that as well, even with a low age of consent. It would just be bias to apply to younger and not the older as well. People like to make excuses for gold diggers?

He means the 28 and 14 year old. That's morally wrong. It's got nothing to do with gold digging.
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