18 year old dating a 16 year old?

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Spartan_Warrior 2020 年 2 月 25 日上午 8:58

do y'all think that's weird? whats your max age difference in your mind.

引用自 Starbug：
引用自 Darkie：

They could, if it was of own choice and families supported it or did not care. If the 50 year old was a female teacher and the 16 year old a boy student in her class, then it would be illigal. Again it depends on the "auhority" situation and if there is any type of taking advantage of, if they are not present then age does not matter, as long as it is within the law.

But most people would frown upon that ofc, because people have set values.

There has to be an assumption that when an adult begins a relationship with a child that there's been a large element of grooming beforehand.

There's no way on earth a 14 year old should be in a sexual relationship with someone that much older than them. To frame that as "love" would be ignorant of the prior manipulation of the child by a controlling adult.

I'm honestly shocked that apparently civilised European countries still class a 14 year old child as being capable of entering into a relationship of this type with a person that age.

My niece is 14 and if she was in this sort of relationship with a man twice her age, he'd be getting a surprise visit from her dad and myself to have a small chat. With that small chat being an euphemism for threats of extreme violence to follow should he fail to leave her alone.

Edit. No need to make further debate, since it will just stir a huge debate without much meaning.

Let me just close it by saying, that in the OP's case I think it is perfectly fine and natural

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ProVegaGamer 2020 年 2 月 25 日下午 7:50

I dated women in their late 50's and early 60's when i was 27-29. no biggie.

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GuRu Asaki 2020 年 2 月 25 日下午 7:53

@The_Unknown_05

Then your country would have issues with @MyEinsamkeit
because they dated people around 30 years older... o_@

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GuRu Asaki 2020 年 2 月 25 日下午 8:09

I would never want to date anyone outside of my age range...

I dunno, just I get the feeling that people who are younger then me,
are going to act a whole lot younger... As in? A bit Childish...

Where as you date someone who is a lot older then you, I just
get the feeling that we just wouldn't connect, our worlds would
be too different...

My folks are 3 Years apart, & to me that is actually the perfect
age range in a marriage... It just feels right...

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Spartan_Warrior 2020 年 2 月 25 日下午 8:15

引用自 The_Unknown_05：
I have a different view.. people dont devolpe the same and thats why I dont care about age.. better the right one with 20years difference then someone in the same age who doesnt fit

Agreed. I feel like its totally dependant on each person on what will work for them

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AdahnGorion 2020 年 2 月 26 日上午 12:15

引用自 ⟨︎DuskMantle⟩：
Nah, that's not that weird. 21 and 16 year old, now that's weird. Those are 2 totally different life stages imo. A 21 year old should either be in college or exploring career opportunities. A 16 year old would be only concerned with high school still and maybe getting their driver's license. Stuff that a 21 year old wouldn't be worrying about hopefully.

Not really. It really depends on maturity and I would also say that there is a big difference on male/female in this segment. This might sound harsh, but a 21 year old can be just as "identity" confused as a 16 year old. Kids and teens are very modern terms as well and in alot of areas in the world, they still don't exist as in our western society. I have worked / teached both teens and young adults and know first hand how they develop...

If we wanted to cook it down, then nature will tell us when people are ready to have fun... Besides naturally we start "testing" and "roleplay" relationships very early in life, infact many preteens/teens start making the roleplay and do stuff that makes them ready for commitment to other people.

The only problem when we talk teens/young adults is when they another person in a position of power and authority starts to take advantage, but late teen love or even young adult and late teen, is not just fine, it is indeed very natural.

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↑↑↓↓←→←→BASelect 2020 年 2 月 26 日上午 12:19

My wife was 18 and I was 24 at the time we met.

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chiefputsilao✖️ping 2020 年 2 月 26 日上午 12:42

引用自 GuRu Asaki：
引用自 The_Unknown_05：
its weird... 2years is "pretty lucky".. most have more years difference.. Its rly hard to find someone in the same age

To me it's within 3 Years apart... But here is a funny thing...

How do you solve this problem?

A guy who is dating a girl who is under age, is considered someone who is doing
illegal acts, & should be put in jail, right?

But how can he know she is under age, if she refuses to give him her age? Don't
Women hate when men ask their age?

Is this not a really deranged problem? Maybe the guy wouldn't date the girl,
if he knew she was under age from the start?

lOl, ^_-

That could be our defense in court for now on... Well ya see officer,
the lady refused to tell me her age, & how was I to know she was under age?

Hahahaaaaa...

the age gap scenario is within reasonable grounds as long as both are 18yo and above.

this scenario, however, raises trouble in my mind.
read: https://www.throwbacks.com/woody-allen-soon-yi-previn/

Woody Allen Married His 27-Year-Old Step-Daughter Because "The Heart Wants What It Wants" While being known as one of the greatest filmmakers of all time, Woody Allen has led a life of both triumph, and shame.
Dec 13, 2017

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Gus the Crocodile 2020 年 2 月 26 日上午 12:47

引用自 Darkie：
A 26 year old female having sex with a 16 year old male is not problematic and legal in most regions.

Some people are really telling on themselves in this thread. A 26 year old having sex with a 16 year old is predatory behaviour.

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Pocahawtness 2020 年 2 月 26 日上午 12:55

No at all weird.

I don't see why some people get all hung up about ages.

It all comes down to the individuals. I have known some 14 year olds who were more adult and responsible than some 24 year olds.

Each case is different and should be judged accordingly. I don't think it is right to define ages that can or can not date.

The laws are mainly in place to stop predatory behaviour., but it isn't a given that all older younger relationships are predatory in nature.

Judge them as people, not just by their age.

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NoodleSpark 2020 年 2 月 26 日上午 12:55

age is just a number

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Pocahawtness 2020 年 2 月 26 日上午 12:57

引用自 Gus the Crocodile：
引用自 Darkie：
A 26 year old female having sex with a 16 year old male is not problematic and legal in most regions.
Some people are really telling on themselves in this thread. A 26 year old having sex with a 16 year old is predatory behaviour.

No, really, it isn't. It MIGHT be, but also it might be a caring, loving relationship. You can't just say that all 16/24 relationships are predatory. They aren't. Apart from anything else, the law doesn't think so, because in most of the world it's perfectly legal.

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AdahnGorion 2020 年 2 月 26 日上午 1:01

引用自 Gus the Crocodile：
引用自 Darkie：
A 26 year old female having sex with a 16 year old male is not problematic and legal in most regions.
Some people are really telling on themselves in this thread. A 26 year old having sex with a 16 year old is predatory behaviour.

No it is not. I also told why it is not. But you are free to tell us why you think it is.
By your argument, predatory behaviour could also be for a 30 year old to find a 24 year old, most 24 year olds have not fully developed their identity yet, most on 30 have.

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Gus the Crocodile 2020 年 2 月 26 日上午 1:23

引用自 ｢C❤️A｣ Pocahawtness：
No, really, it isn't. It MIGHT be, but also it might be a caring, loving relationship. You can't just say that all 16/24 relationships are predatory. They aren't. Apart from anything else, the law doesn't think so, because in most of the world it's perfectly legal.

I'm not here to discuss the law; the thread topic wasn't "is it legal". Indeed I'd say that if someone in or past their twenties is 'dating' someone so much younger than them that they feel the need to cite the law, that's a red flag in itself.

引用自 Darkie：
By your argument, predatory behaviour could also be for a 30 year old to find a 24 year old, most 24 year olds have not fully developed their identity yet, most on 30 have.

Uh, no, that is not "my argument" at all. That's an entirely different scenario that I haven't commented on. A 24 year old is not a child. The age difference there isn't like two-thirds of one party's entire life.

I'm really not bothered if any 26 year olds ♥♥♥♥♥♥♥ year 10 kids think I'm being unreasonable.

最後修改者：Gus the Crocodile; 2020 年 2 月 26 日上午 3:23

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Q-T_3.14.exe 2020 年 2 月 26 日上午 1:24

I recall seen a video where there a four friends in a parked car, one of them says that there's nothing wrong with a 18 yo dating a 13 yo and one of the friends in the back seat tells this guy that that's so wrong while the guy says that there's absolutely nothing wrong with that. I felt uncomfortable through the whole video.

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