I have a bad habit of ghosting internet acquaintances and i really should stop

[Terrodactyll]

To those who don't know, the term ghosting basically means to end relationships by withdrawing from all communication. Like stop talking to them. I do this a lot because i either don't have time to talk to them or i just feel like they don't fit with me. It's never a "I don't like that person" case because ironically, i've been looking for internet friends. And sometimes when i try to reach someone i haven't talked to for a pretty long time i feel like they forgot me.

I feel like this has been going on for too much and i should really stop. Since i'm also looking for internet friends. But i think that keeping relationships with others is really hard. Maybe the key to this is to have high social skills. But i don't exactly know. Does anyone feel the same anyways?

[Jonathan Sensei]

I ghosted a few friends a while back. But that's the key - friends - actual people I got along with. I did re-add them after apologizing to them about it though. Not a random user who added me because I was good in a round. Those users I don't give a 2nd thought to removing.

Have you heard of the hedgehog's dilemma before, OP? You might be dealing with that. I would suggest you take the time to be more selective with who you friend here. And if you feel the urge to ghost them, think about it first. And if you still feel you should do it, just leave a message for them.

[Xautos]

I often do ghosting, but for someone like me who doesn't know how to form friendships much less make them work, be it a real friend in the world or a fake friend on the computer (with a person you don't actually know beyond a screen name), i often lose contact or burn the bridges behind me on purpose.

surest way of surviving is by changing and adapting and you can't do that clinging to a fantasy.

[Radene]

You don't learn social skills on the internet.

[Jonathan Sensei]

Originally posted by Xautos:

I often do ghosting, but for someone like me who doesn't know how to form friendships much less make them work, be it a real friend in the world or a fake friend on the computer (with a person you don't actually know beyond a screen name), i often lose contact or burn the bridges behind me on purpose.

surest way of surviving is by changing and adapting and you can't do that clinging to a fantasy.

Our species survived to this point by building bridges with each other. But yeah, most of the people you'll see here you don't need to be buddy-buddy with. Nor do you need an explanation as to why you don't want to deal with them anymore. But there is a living, breathing person behind that username. So it doesn't hurt to be civil about it.

[Terrodactyll]

Originally posted by Jonathan:

Have you heard of the hedgehog's dilemma before, OP? You might be dealing with that. I would suggest you take the time to be more selective with who you friend here. And if you feel the urge to ghost them, think about it first. And if you still feel you should do it, just leave a message for them.

I do know the hedgehog's dilemma term. That the closer two people are the more they hurt each other. I don't think it correlates with ghosting (though i am dealing with that). I also ghost people not because i want to, but because i didn't mean to

[Jonathan Sensei]

Originally posted by Terrodactyll:

Originally posted by Jonathan:

Have you heard of the hedgehog's dilemma before, OP? You might be dealing with that. I would suggest you take the time to be more selective with who you friend here. And if you feel the urge to ghost them, think about it first. And if you still feel you should do it, just leave a message for them.

I do know the hedgehog's dilemma term. That the closer two people are the more they hurt each other. I don't think it correlates with ghosting (though i am dealing with that). I also ghost people not because i want to, but because i didn't mean to

So you do it by mistake?

[Terrodactyll]

Originally posted by Jonathan:

Originally posted by Terrodactyll:

I do know the hedgehog's dilemma term. That the closer two people are the more they hurt each other. I don't think it correlates with ghosting (though i am dealing with that). I also ghost people not because i want to, but because i didn't mean to

So you do it by mistake?

Probably. Like i said, i did it because i didn't have time to talk to them. Well looks like ghosting isn't the right name for this. It's more of a 'leaving my friends' situation, because i have no intention of unfriending them