My girlfriend doesn't want me to play games

[KillWonder]

She hates games and wants me to spend all my time only on her or on house chores. We plan to have children later this year. She claims I will not have time anyway for games once we have a baby!
I'm worried because I really want to have a family but I also love playing games.

[idkyetok]

She cant shop if u cant play games

[Radene]

Publicado originalmente por Xautos:

Publicado originalmente por Radene:

Nobody is ever truly, completely prepared. But the stages of unpreparedness are not made equal.

There's "can't plan for everything" and then there's "didn't even consider the basics".

Point. But that assumes the OP is that unprepared of course.

Not having the relationship dynamic sorted, but planning for kids? Yeah, what could possibly go wrong.

[Von-Reaper]

She sounds a bit selfish tbh but i'm not here to judge.

Try to compromise,Yes you wont have all the time in the world for games but that doesnt mean you can't play them,If she INSISTS that it wont work something isn't right in your relationship,You should care about eachother and be willing to work together,tell her you wont be on as much to help out and such and that its a hobby you love and to respect that,Much like say if she uses facebook or instagram or whatever...
But if she tries to be controlling of you,You're in a bad spot man.
Also Kids are kinda not good with controlling people...if it comes to it.

[chiefputsilao✖️ping]

so she asks you to choose between her Vbox and your Xbox and you choose Xbox?

[=CrimsoN=]

Publicado originalmente por chiefputsilao✖️ping:

so she asks you to choose between her Vbox and your Xbox and you choose Xbox? :TimoreMannequin:

It's not that. It's more like it's a slippery slope to her controlling him. Besides, why make it a choice. Why not have both?

[2.0]

I smell ♥♥♥♥♥♥♥♥

[mikel3113]

Honestly sounds like envy and or jealousy that you have a hobby that you enjoy that she doesn't understand. If I were to guess she doesn't have many or any hobbies of her own that can be done around the house?

I just had a kid this past year, back in October and have been a gamer all my life . I knew going into it that I would have LESS time to play games, along with other hobbies of mine, but instead of the conversation you're having we had the conversation making sure to give each other time for ourselves. The kid comes first of course and sleep deprivation in the first 2-5 weeks is a real battle to where I had just about no energy anyways to play games or anything else. Housework and chores do get very burdensome as well, as you're constantly trying to get sleep, feed yourself and not let your house go to crap and take care of your kid. You'll basically live on 3-4 hour task oriented cycles that never stop.

However, that being said, this upcoming Saturday she is letting me sleep in and giving me the whole day into the night with no responsibilities to my son and she's going to take care of him the entire day and let me do whatever I want, gaming included. We tag team other days and then I'll reciprocate and give her time to do whatever. Either way you need to have the conversation now because if you really love gaming and that's what gives you your woosah and decreases stress then you're definitely going to need that in your life still with your new kid. It'll be unhealthy otherwise and it'll be in her best interest to come up with a compromise so you guys have a healthy relationship going forward. She doesn't have to understand your hobby but she has to understand how you manage stress and relax and she should learn to respect that a little more.

[🦜Cloud Boy🦜]

if your girlfriend told you to get rid of videosgame, you should do it right away.
You must OBEY you girlfriend.
Without asking any question.

It's the RULE.

[ุ ุ]

Publicado originalmente por ⎛⎝ Cloud Boy ⎠⎞:

if your girlfriend told you to get rid of videosgame, you should do it right away.
You must OBEY you girlfriend.
Without asking any question.

It's the RULE.

TRUE FALSE.

[Zylfrax791]

Publicado originalmente por KillWonder:

She hates games and wants me to spend all my time only on her or on house chores. We plan to have children later this year. She claims I will not have time anyway for games once we have a baby!
I'm worried because I really want to have a family but I also love playing games.

Screw the games, the bigger problem here is you're planning on having children with a female you're not married to. Are you out of your gourd buddy?

[WhiteKnight]

Listen to her and bow before her everyday and you shall be rewarded.

[37]

Counter her by saying the kid will want videogames

[Zekiran]

As a manager of a comic book store, I saw way too many full grown adult men come in with boxes of their old comics, because, "my wife won't let me keep them".

Sad as hell.

Finally I just told a couple of them, "why are you letting this person tell you what makes you happy?"

If your 'girlfriend' wants children, maybe she should remember that she won't own THEM either. Set aside time for her, but I strongly recommend that this is not a good match.

[mikel3113]

Publicado originalmente por Zylfrax791:

Publicado originalmente por KillWonder:

She hates games and wants me to spend all my time only on her or on house chores. We plan to have children later this year. She claims I will not have time anyway for games once we have a baby!
I'm worried because I really want to have a family but I also love playing games.

Screw the games, the bigger problem here is you're planning on having children with a female you're not married to. Are you out of your gourd buddy?

Marriage is a antiquated social contract bound to religion, property rights, and possession. It really boils down to nothing, and that's why there's an out called divorce. Look how prevalent divorce is ( at least here in USA). Just because you say I do in front of witnesses and " before God", doesn't mean you'll have any more of chance of staying together and or a good healthy relationship then a couple that is not married. We shouldn't judge others for not getting married. Just you do you, and let him do him.

With all that said I am married myself, but in my eyes I made the promise to myself and to the woman that I love way before I married her. We were together 7 years prior to getting married. The reason that we chose to get married was more practical and financial purposes that are beneficial and we weren't against it and our parents are traditional and we're all for it. then again they wouldn't have rejected us for not getting married if we chose not to. Being married or not in this situation he's dealing with doesn't matter one way or the other and is besides the point.

[Magma Dragoon]

She's probably right, any time you spend playing video games is quality time you aren't spending with your family. You might be able to defend a Switch with Mario Party or some other digital board games, but once they start walking you aren't going to have tens of hours a week to kill goofing off at the computer.