I broke my best friends trust and I want to make things right

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Alex Oct 6, 2018 @ 10:59pm

I hurt someone that I hold close to my heart unintentionally and damaged our friendship. I feel so guilty and I want to restore her faith and trust in me. What can I do?

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Canny McTin-Face Oct 6, 2018 @ 11:00pm

apoligise

Leavee Oct 6, 2018 @ 11:00pm

What did you do exactly?

Florida Man Oct 6, 2018 @ 11:01pm

It depends on what you did.

Sometimes sorry will never be enough.

Mr. Megidramon Oct 6, 2018 @ 11:12pm

What is broke may never be fixed....

↑↑↓↓←→←→BASelect Oct 6, 2018 @ 11:14pm

Originally posted by Alexander (The Wolfman):
Originally posted by Mister Lilligant:
What did you do exactly?
Its a really long story. Basically I was playing overwatch with two of my friends including the one I am talking about, and I noticed she was getting upset with the game. I was really concerned so afterwards I sent her a text on discord saying she should try to control her anger more, and after that the other friend of mine told me that I seriously hurt her because of the fact that I was assuming she had anger problems and that she should control them, when in reality it was just her anxiety. I got so upset with myself that I ended up unfriending both of them from discord and steam which hurt her even more.

I think they blew that way out of proportion.

Leavee Oct 6, 2018 @ 11:22pm

Originally posted by Alexander (The Wolfman):
Originally posted by Mister Lilligant:
What did you do exactly?
Its a really long story. Basically I was playing overwatch with two of my friends including the one I am talking about, and I noticed she was getting upset with the game. I was really concerned so afterwards I sent her a text on discord saying she should try to control her anger more, and after that the other friend of mine told me that I seriously hurt her because of the fact that I was assuming she had anger problems and that she should control them, when in reality it was just her anxiety. I got so upset with myself that I ended up unfriending both of them from discord and steam which hurt her even more.

You NEVER should have unfriended her.SHE'S YOUR FRIEND, just doing that will make your already complicated problem even more complicated.Tell her that you yourself made a mistake and you must apologize about you assuming her being mad.

Apologize that you gave her anxiety and that you were upset it's your only one way ticket to fix it back or it will be a scar that will never go away.

76561197961796205 Oct 6, 2018 @ 11:23pm

Have you tried flex tape?

Naedmi Oct 6, 2018 @ 11:27pm

Originally posted by Alexander (The Wolfman):
I sent her a text on discord saying she should try to control her anger more.

In my experience of being a man, you never say that to a woman. You also never tell one to calm down when she's upset, never say she's wrong or never say anything negative about her.

Leavee Oct 6, 2018 @ 11:27pm

Originally posted by Alexander (The Wolfman):
Originally posted by Mister Lilligant:
You NEVER should have unfriended her.SHE'S YOUR FRIEND, just doing that will make your already complicated problem even more complicated.Tell her that you yourself made a mistake and you must apologize about you assuming her being mad.

Apologize that you gave her anxiety and that you were upset it's your only one way ticket to fix it back or it will be a scar that will never go away.
I already did apologize. I think she accepted it but she is still hurt I believe, I am just trying to think of ways to rebuild trust

building a broken trust is hard but its a slow process, it's not something that will instantly happen in a snap of a finger but you must treat your friends such as her some respect from here and there.Just wait for a few months or weeks and it will graduall become better.

Give her some time for herself and she'll be back to her normal state.

Last edited by Leavee; Oct 6, 2018 @ 11:28pm

Leavee Oct 6, 2018 @ 11:29pm

Originally posted by Alexander (The Wolfman):
Originally posted by Mister Lilligant:
building a broken trust is hard but its a slow process, it's not something that will instantly happen in a snap of a finger but you must treat your friends such as her some respect from here and there.Just wait for a few months or weeks and it will graduall become better.
Alright, I promise I will. Thank you so much Mister Lilligant <3

Hey no problem man, thought i could help someone from here and there.

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𝕎𝕠𝕦𝕤𝕖𝕝𝕫 Oct 7, 2018 @ 12:23am

And you never tried... dunno... to pay her a visit and just TALK and EXPLAIN your behave to her from face to face and apologize? o_O

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𝕎𝕠𝕦𝕤𝕖𝕝𝕫 Oct 7, 2018 @ 12:27am

Originally posted by Wouselz:
And you never tried... dunno... to pay her a visit and just TALK and EXPLAIN your behave to her from face to face and apologize? o_O

What about that?

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Dazai Osamu 🎃 Oct 7, 2018 @ 12:37am

Originally posted by Alexander (The Wolfman):
Originally posted by Wouselz:
What about that?
I did do that as well, and I apologized. It wasn't enough though and I need to start actively doing things that build trust so I can restore her faith in me as a friend

Then that is what you do. Just ask her how you can fix it and that you want to fix it because you regret doing what you did.

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𝕎𝕠𝕦𝕤𝕖𝕝𝕫 Oct 7, 2018 @ 12:43am

Originally posted by Alexander (The Wolfman):
Originally posted by Wouselz:
What about that?
I did do that as well, and I apologized. It wasn't enough though and I need to start actively doing things that build trust so I can restore her faith in me as a friend

How will you do anything ACTIVELY if you don't have personal contact?

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