Gamer Rage and Anger Management

[thingamajiggly]

So, I seem to have a teensy bit of a problem getting frustrated and angry when I play video games. I'd like to think that I'm just passionate, but I guess others don't think so. I don't throw stuff or break things, but I do get loud and sometimes I yell. I've always been a competative person, in school and at work, but this aspect of my nature seems to get the better of me when I play video games. Anyway, I'm looking to work on this. What techniques have you found to be the most successful when you find yourself getting frustrated and angry with a game?

[Phirestar]

As far as multiplayer is concerned (because I'm sure that's what most people get angry over), I taught myself to just not get concerned about failure. Learn to not get worked up over losing, or not being good, or whatever else. Instead, remind yourself of the thing or things that you enjoy about the game, and focus on that. You don't need to prove anything.

For singleplayer games, if you're having difficulty with something, just stay positive and keep trying - you will figure it out, regardless of how many tries it takes. And if that doesn't work for you, then just take a break from it. You'd be surprised how many repeated failures you can go through, and then coming back to something after even a short break, you get it right the first time. (I had this occur to me while fighting Ornstein and Smough in Dark Souls 1, for the first time. After about 8 consecutive deaths, I stopped playing. The next morning I got onto the game, and immediately beat them on my first go.)

That's what helps me.

[rbindy]

I think its fine to get angry at the game, so long as its not harming anyone else or your pc. I for one have gotten utterly pissed at games but as you don't start breaking things or harming people it doesn't matter.

[thingamajiggly]

引用自 Phirestar：

As far as multiplayer is concerned (because I'm sure that's what most people get angry over), I taught myself to just not get concerned about failure. Learn to not get worked up over losing, or not being good, or whatever else. Instead, remind yourself of the thing or things that you enjoy about the game, and focus on that. You don't need to prove anything.

For singleplayer games, if you're having difficulty with something, just stay positive and keep trying - you will figure it out, regardless of how many tries it takes. And if that doesn't work for you, then just take a break from it. You'd be surprised how many repeated failures you can go through, and then coming back to something after even a short break, you get it right the first time. (I had this occur to me while fighting Ornstein and Smough in Dark Souls 1, for the first time. After about 8 consecutive deaths, I stopped playing. The next morning I got onto the game, and immediately beat them on my first go.)

That's what helps me.

Thank you, this was a really great answer. Yeah, for the most part, it seems as though I get more frustrated when playing multiplayer games. I'm not a big fan of cooperative play, but my boyfriend is, so I do end up playing a lot of these kind of games.

[∴ Snake ∴]

I just vent all my hate and anger. Swearing does the job. No need to get physical on a wall or anything like that.

[Plaid]

git gud.

[Vince ✟]

Testosterone. You'll get over the anger issues in time.

[Nine-ball]

I don't work on it. As long as I'm not breaking stuff and I'm aware that I'm being ridiculous, it's not a problem. For instance, accusing games of cheating or devs of not playtesting anything. To be fair, both can actually happen but not at all with the frequency I accuse them of when I'm shouting at my monitor or TV.

Multiplayer is a bit trickier. I have a very friendly demeanor during multiplayer matches. I laugh at other people's jokes, I talk to them, I at least try to be a good team player, and so hardly anyone is ever offended.

When something truly unbelievable happens (I got shot? I died? Obviously, those things NEVER happen) most people will take my little outbursts quite well when they're not outright laughing. However, if I do offend people I'm usually very quick to apologize and explain that I don't mean the vast majority of what I say. It's just banter and trash talk to liven up the game a little. Where it still bothers people, I shut up.

A little venting like that can be extremely helpful for keeping actual anger at bay. And as has been said before, stop taking things so seriously. You have to be able to laugh at yourself a little.

[Mara Jadewind]

When you rage go watch a porn and fap.

[thingamajiggly]

引用自 Vince：

Testosterone. You'll get over the anger issues in time.

Considering I'm a female in my 30's... Ehhhh, unlikely

[thingamajiggly]

引用自 Mr. Mister：

bite a pencil.
tricks your brain into thinking you're happy
just hold it there while you're gaming.
helps with headaches too.

like this
https://media.indiatimes.in/media/content/2015/Oct/pencil_1444815743.jpg

I'll have to try this, thanks!