Have you ever been cheated in a relationship?

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Share your experience.

[Sylphie Fioré]

No because I do things right in a relationship

[Legostyle03]

Originalmente postado por Nami M. May:

No because I do things right in a relationship

Because its totally a persons fault if they get cheated on...

[Sylphie Fioré]

Originalmente postado por Legostyle03:

Originalmente postado por Nami M. May:

No because I do things right in a relationship

Because its totally a persons fault if they get cheated on...

Have you tried communication and acceptance? If your partner hides things from you then your relationship is messed up. Supposed to trust each other and communicate. If something is wrong, perhaps they want to see someone else then talk about it, it's no bloody hard. Cheating is what selfish ♥♥♥♥♥♥♥♥♥♥ do, and I am fully aware a lot of people are like that. Perhaps be more careful picking people if that's the kind of person you picked up.

And of course you lot are at fault too. So many of you sit here and blame the other person when I am certain you most likely did something wrong. Trust, communicate, be honest, be yourself and love your partner. If you do those things you won't be at fault.

[Legostyle03]

Originalmente postado por Nami M. May:

Originalmente postado por Legostyle03:

Because its totally a persons fault if they get cheated on...

Have you tried communication and acceptance? If your partner hides things from you then your relationship is messed up. Supposed to trust each other and communicate. If something is wrong, perhaps they want to see someone else then talk about it, it's no bloody hard. Cheating is what selfish ♥♥♥♥♥♥♥♥♥♥ do, and I am fully aware a lot of people are like that. Perhaps be more careful picking people if that's the kind of person you picked up.

And of course you lot are at fault too. So many of you sit here and blame the other person when I am certain you most likely did something wrong. Trust, communicate, be honest, be yourself and love your partner. If you do those things you won't be at fault.

I have never been in a relationship so i don't know why you assume i was cheated on.

[Flika1999]

Originalmente postado por DarkChristmastalMethod:

Jokes on you, I never had a relationship.

[Dark.Flame97]

My hand cannot cheat on me.

[Nine-ball]

You bet I have. What do you think happens when I pay my taxes? Social contract theory can do as it was meant to do and kiss its own butt. The will of the many is societal contract for all? Suck your own Leviathan, Thomas Hobbes.

Romantically, no, I've never been cheated on. But then, I don't have this experience that apperently causes people to cheat. It's almost a stereotype in the media these days. Married couples wil cheat because they're bored or dissatisfied. In truth, that was always a thing for every culture.

I don't buy it. I speak from ignorance, never having been married myself, but how much self-discipline does it take to be faithful, really? Maybe you're tired of your old lady, the sex isn't as good or whatever, and woe betide those who found a relationship upon it. What's the problem? Relationships and marriage aren't supposed to be an unending surf of delights, neither is life, but the right partner, if you have faith in them and they have faith in you, can make all the difference.

The strongest couples I have ever seen are those who pit themselves against the world. The weakest are those who seek advantage over each other. And that's no praise of socialism, which exists to create harmony by taking. Strong couples are independent enough to lean on each other and come up standing. If nothing else, a little co-habitation spreads the workload.

So why would anyone cheat on me? They haven't, so far, because I see the cheaters before they ever worm their way into my heart. The cheaters are the people who want something beyond what they can accomplish on their own, without the ability to do so. Ambition without ability is a sure-fire recipe for cheating. After all, they need to want something more.

It's as simple as that. Build a relationship with someone, share and grow together. Build your ambitions together, through the struggle of a romantic relationship. Tend to your own needs and be forgiving of your partner's needs. But be aware that you are supposed to be partners.

Do that, make sure you don't select the natural cheaters, with ambition beyond their design or ability, and I can promise you a good relationship. Maybe not marital bliss, which is beyond my experience, but at least a solid foundation.