Why do people dislike autistic kids?

🜂∴🜏 Cassie 2017 年 10 月 15 日下午 9:27

引用自 >:FrozenDragon:<：
And this is why people like you and such need to be friends with these kids is so they don't feel lonely and bullied in this world and make them feel happy and have someone to have their back.

Nobody needs to be friends with anyone just to make them feel wanted. That's not a healthy basis for a friendship.

Instead, if you befriend a person who has autism, let it be because you enjoy their company, have similar interests or whatnot.

I am sure that as a high-functioning autistic person, you would realize if someone was only friends with you out of sympathy or pity, would that not make you feel worse? Wouldn't you rather people befriend you because they like you as a person?

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>:FrozenDragon:< 2017 年 10 月 15 日下午 9:29

引用自 R Λ i D Ξ N：
引用自 >:FrozenDragon:<：
And this is why people like you and such need to be friends with these kids is so they don't feel lonely and bullied in this world and make them feel happy and have someone to have their back.
Nobody needs to be friends with anyone just to make them feel wanted. That's not a healthy basis for a friendship.

Instead, if you befriend a person who has autism, let it be because you enjoy their company, have similar interests or whatnot.

I am sure that as a high-functioning autistic person, you would realize if someone was only friends with you out of sympathy or pity, would that not make you feel worse? Wouldn't you rather people befriend you because they like you as a person?

:rad_rune:

Excuse my words I'm just tired so I may be slipping off but I agree with you.

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Xaelath 2017 年 10 月 15 日下午 9:30

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引用自 Xaelath：
Oh i see.
Then we might have 2 different type of autistic people.
I do have one of my best friend during high school abit autistic? It's just he talk fast,easy to get angry, seems abit off than normal person,play on his own world,and have high ego (different type).
Then there's another friend that said to be autistic though it seems on the high side.

I've only seen 2 people that i acknowledge as low side.
They barely speak, 1 can't walk properly, they didn't see the world as a normal.human do, they hurt themselves often during activities.

Yeah.. i felt bad for them..

Well this is a sad story since one of my old friends who was somewhat autistic made it to high school year 9 but unfortunately he commit suicide by hanging himself.

Now i have mixed feelings about autistic people life.
Either discrimination or their own world killed it.

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MATANKA KURA 2017 年 10 月 15 日下午 9:32

am autistic. im personally not disliked, but an autistic friend of mine manages to make everyone hate him somehow

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>:FrozenDragon:< 2017 年 10 月 15 日下午 9:33

引用自 Xaelath：
引用自 >:FrozenDragon:<：

Well this is a sad story since one of my old friends who was somewhat autistic made it to high school year 9 but unfortunately he commit suicide by hanging himself.
Now i have mixed feelings about autistic people life.
Either discrimination or their own world killed it.

No need to have mixed feelings I honestly have no clue as to why he did this but I'm assuming he had problems or something maybe he was being bullied too much but I have no clue why he would go as far as hanging himself.

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🜂∴🜏 Cassie 2017 年 10 月 15 日下午 9:34

引用自 >:FrozenDragon:<：
引用自 R Λ i D Ξ N：
Nobody needs to be friends with anyone just to make them feel wanted. That's not a healthy basis for a friendship.

Instead, if you befriend a person who has autism, let it be because you enjoy their company, have similar interests or whatnot.

I am sure that as a high-functioning autistic person, you would realize if someone was only friends with you out of sympathy or pity, would that not make you feel worse? Wouldn't you rather people befriend you because they like you as a person?

Excuse my words I'm just tired so I may be slipping off but I agree with you.

To be honest I might be one myself, according to my counselor. But because there is still a heavy stigma associated with such things where I live, my parents never let me get officially diagnosed so I don't know. I've always lived life as a neurotypical, treated just like everyone else.

In a sense, I kind of see both sides, so to speak.

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>:FrozenDragon:< 2017 年 10 月 15 日下午 9:35

引用自 R Λ i D Ξ N：
引用自 >:FrozenDragon:<：

Excuse my words I'm just tired so I may be slipping off but I agree with you.
To be honest I might be one myself, according to my counselor. But because there is still a heavy stigma associated with such things where I live, my parents never let me get officially diagnosed so I don't know. I've always lived life as a neurotypical, treated just like everyone else.

In a sense, I kind of see both sides, so to speak.

:rad_rune:

How well do you do with other people and in school? I might beable to tell if you have it or not since I know how autism kids behave.

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Daxank 2017 年 10 月 15 日下午 9:36

I think you mean ''acoustic''

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>:FrozenDragon:< 2017 年 10 月 15 日下午 9:38

引用自 🎃Daxank🎃：
I think you mean ''acoustic'' :trump:

I literally do not even understand what you mean by that but I'm getting a feeling it's something rude.

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🜂∴🜏 Cassie 2017 年 10 月 15 日下午 9:44

引用自 >:FrozenDragon:<：
引用自 R Λ i D Ξ N：
To be honest I might be one myself, according to my counselor. But because there is still a heavy stigma associated with such things where I live, my parents never let me get officially diagnosed so I don't know. I've always lived life as a neurotypical, treated just like everyone else.

In a sense, I kind of see both sides, so to speak.

How well do you do with other people and in school? I might beable to tell if you have it or not since I know how autism kids behave.

I was a social pariah in my previous schools, before I figured out what I was doing wrong. I liked to show off. I did very well in my first school (in terms of grades) and I never bothered to hide it. When the teachers asked a question, I was always fighting to be the first to answer. When someone did something wrong, I was always correcting them. Now I see that such behavior made people justifiably dislike me. I wish I had known this back then.

I never had any close childhood friends other than my neighbor. I spent most of my childhood with books and games.

I don't know if it was my parents' failure to teach me or if there was just something wrong with me, that I didn't learn all these normal social behavior on my own until recently.

Aside from academics, I was always the black sheep in the family. I did very well in studies, but I was always getting into trouble, for getting violently angry at small things that only midly annoyed the other kids. Then I would shut myself somewhere dark and quiet so I could be alone with my thoughts. I was also very defiant and would intentionally do something after being told not to.

I would like to think that I've reformed all of that now. But some days I know it comes back. And I have to fight it off, because it's not acceptable behavior.

Sorry for rambling. That's as much of my personal life that I care to share, more than that I won't say.

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Dexious Emera 2017 年 10 月 15 日下午 9:45

They probably just throw the word "autistic" as an insult

I use it as insult sometimes while having no problem with autistic kids irl

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>:FrozenDragon:< 2017 年 10 月 15 日下午 9:47

引用自 R Λ i D Ξ N：
引用自 >:FrozenDragon:<：

How well do you do with other people and in school? I might beable to tell if you have it or not since I know how autism kids behave.
I was a social pariah in my previous schools, before I figured out what I was doing wrong. I liked to show off. I did very well in my first school (in terms of grades) and I never bothered to hide it. When the teachers asked a question, I was always fighting to be the first to answer. When someone did something wrong, I was always correcting them. Now I see that such behavior made people justifiably dislike me. I wish I had known this back then.

I never had any close childhood friends other than my neighbor. I spent most of my childhood with books and games.

I don't know if it was my parents' failure to teach me or if there was just something wrong with me, that I didn't learn all these normal social behavior on my own until recently.

Aside from academics, I was always the black sheep in the family. I did very well in studies, but I was always getting into trouble, for getting violently angry at small things that only midly annoyed the other kids. Then I would shut myself somewhere dark and quiet so I could be alone with my thoughts. I was also very defiant and would intentionally do something after being told not to.

I would like to think that I've reformed all of that now. But some days I know it comes back. And I have to fight it off, because it's not acceptable behavior.

Sorry for rambling. That's as much of my personal life that I care to share, more than that I won't say.

:rad_rune:

Well I wouldn't say your autistic I'd say you just have a few autistic traits yes some normal humans do have autistic traits.

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🜂∴🜏 Cassie 2017 年 10 月 15 日下午 9:50

Good to know. Still, if I ever get to live in a different country, with more progressive views towards psychology, I would go for a professional opinion just to know once and for all. Put my mind at ease so I stop wondering, you know?

最后由 🜂∴🜏 Cassie 编辑于; 2017 年 10 月 15 日下午 9:51

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>:FrozenDragon:< 2017 年 10 月 15 日下午 9:52

引用自 R Λ i D Ξ N：
Good to know. Still, if I ever get to live in a different country, with more progressive views towards psychology, I would go for a professional opinion just o know once and for all. Put my mind at ease so I stop wondering, you know?

:rad_rune:

Yeah I understand but if you really want a double check then you'll have to get your parents to get you diagnosed and see if you really have autism or if it's just a few traits.

最后由 >:FrozenDragon:< 编辑于; 2017 年 10 月 15 日下午 9:52

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🜂∴🜏 Cassie 2017 年 10 月 15 日下午 9:55

引用自 >:FrozenDragon:<：

Yeah I understand but if you really want a double check then you'll have to get your parents to get you diagnosed and see if you really have autism or if it's just a few traits.

Yeah, maybe if I live in West Europe or America lol

Anyway, I wouldn't worry too much about what people on the Internet think. Just as there are people who hate on autistic kids, there are people who don't mind them, even like them. I know for sure there are people who dislike me because of my posts. But so what? We should focus on the people who like us and care about us instead.

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