How do I make a woman stop calling herself ugly?

[G_lad]

So far pure logic and a crap ton of frank compliments don't work as intended. I don't feel like giving up.

[Kris]

She might want reassurance or your attention, and it feels good to be called attractive.

If her self-esteem really is that low, there's not much you could say that would make her think she's pretty. The best you can do is continue to support her as she works on developing her own confidence.

[Azza ☠]

Oprindeligt skrevet af Shiki Ryougi:

Oprindeligt skrevet af Deadsea_1993:

In Psychology it is found that we as men struggle more with physical temptation while women suffer from mental temptation. When men get married or get into a serious relationship we will always have thoughts about what it would be like to be with another woman for the night. It's a constant battle that will never go away. My grandfather told me once that every time he would get into an argument with my grandmother he'd get a condom and go to the brothel hotel lol. I have never cheated on my fiancé and I don't ever want to because I don't want to be a dog like my father.

Now on topic. My fiancé, like every other woman, feels like she is fat at times because of all of the media says that if you are a size 3, you're fat, which is bogus. I've been with her for a long time and I've told her that she looks beautiful to me but if she really isn't happy with herself then she could go with me to the gym. I love her either way.

I'd suggest that unless you know your woman very well that you tell her that she's beautiful every time she calls herself fat. Telling her to go to the gym with you is a gamble because there's a chance that she will say "I knew it....I'm fat." Women suffer more from sadness and depression far more than the average man does.

you're bias, you're only saying she's not fat because you're trying to justify her weight since she's the one you're with. if she actually is fat and needs to lose weight to stay healthy, you're doing nothing to aid that, eat healthier and lay off the treats.

Fat people are fat, because they think like that.

The sub-consisous only dwells upon the topic 'fat' and therefore the brain actually leads them towards more food for comfort. This then leads to the consisous and sub-consisous clashing at the results. So they try stupid things like staving themselves and fad diets, etc. Which never last as they are still dwelling upon the negative and merely fighting against themselves.

Self-pity is the worst and just leads to depression.

Get her one of those fitness bands that count movement, calorie intake, water intake, and sleep. Get off your ass and move around. Eat more high protein and fiber in your diet, rather than staving yourself. Then drink water (rather than juice and soda, etc). Get a good night sleep. Take the dog for a walk every day, rather than sitting around watching tv or on the computer all the time. You can easily lose pounds this way and can keep them off rather than bouncing back, if you make it a habit of lifestyle change. If you balance out those and keep track of it, you can easily tell if you are making progress or just cheating upon yourself too.

If shes really so depressed about it, provide a solution to deal with it and move on.

[tmwfte]

Ball gag.

[Kris]

Oprindeligt skrevet af Shiki Ryougi:

you're bias, you're only saying she's not fat because you're trying to justify her weight since she's the one you're with. if she actually is fat and needs to lose weight to stay healthy, you're doing nothing to aid that, eat healthier and lay off the treats.

But... she's not necessarily overweight at all. There are plenty of perfectly healthy women that think they're fat because of how the media portrays the "ideal" woman. As someone who struggled with an eating disorder, at 5'10 and 135 lbs, I'm nowhere near fat. I should know that logically, but when you're in that mentality, you think you can always improve. You can always be skinnier. So I didn't feel happy unless I was 115. Which is very underweight. But during that time, I truly believed I was "fat". It didn't help that people called me unattractive. So I'd agree with him. Men, appreciate your ladies, and complimenting them is lovely. Just like women should respect and appreciate their men. It's silly to say he's biased. You don't know him or her.

[ABCmouse.com]

Buy her a mirror then stop responding to the pleads for attention

[Autistic Whales]

You call her ugly aswell.

[Lusus Symphonia]

Don't compliment her, she will beg for it but compliments shouldn't be given out too much otherwise they become meaningless, if you constantly call someone beautiful then the word would become dull.

A good way to see if you're in this loop is if someone compliments and it is recieved like "oh, thanks, you too."

When you're married, you'll know the correct moments to reassure your wife but saying that she is beautiful every couple hours of the day becomes a sick ritual.

[shoopy]

Chop her head off.

[Merciful]

Punch her in the throat and fist her inside out with your roided biceps

[Myrmicon]

Oprindeligt skrevet af Trickster Of Cheap Tactics:

You call her ugly aswell.

I tell you what she will say.
"What the hell?! I am not! What you saying that for?!"

[Vile]

Oprindeligt skrevet af Shiki Ryougi:

Oprindeligt skrevet af Deadsea_1993:

In Psychology it is found that we as men struggle more with physical temptation while women suffer from mental temptation. When men get married or get into a serious relationship we will always have thoughts about what it would be like to be with another woman for the night. It's a constant battle that will never go away. My grandfather told me once that every time he would get into an argument with my grandmother he'd get a condom and go to the brothel hotel lol. I have never cheated on my fiancé and I don't ever want to because I don't want to be a dog like my father.

Now on topic. My fiancé, like every other woman, feels like she is fat at times because of all of the media says that if you are a size 3, you're fat, which is bogus. I've been with her for a long time and I've told her that she looks beautiful to me but if she really isn't happy with herself then she could go with me to the gym. I love her either way.

I'd suggest that unless you know your woman very well that you tell her that she's beautiful every time she calls herself fat. Telling her to go to the gym with you is a gamble because there's a chance that she will say "I knew it....I'm fat." Women suffer more from sadness and depression far more than the average man does.

you're bias, you're only saying she's not fat because you're trying to justify her weight since she's the one you're with. if she actually is fat and needs to lose weight to stay healthy, you're doing nothing to aid that, eat healthier and lay off the treats.

She's not fat though, that's the point. She is average size by European standards and we live in United States in North Carolina, the South. She has been eating healthy and working out. I don't know where you live but if you call a woman in this country fat you will either, get hit, have a drink thrown on you, or get cussed out.

It's a proven fact that women suffer from depression more than men do. Heck read "Why I quit Facebook" blogs where women all have similar stories about comparing their life to others, feeling fat because her friend is at the gym in pictures, feeling sad seeing their friends engaged or having kids and they cannot have kids, etc.

I'm supportive of my future wife because I'm half Italian and Italians treat their women like queens.

We love kids and yet we can't have any because she was born with water on the brain (she's perfectly normal though) and the doctor said that if she got pregnant it could put her and the baby at risk. She sometimes gets depressed over this and I remind her that it's OK and we will adopt three kids one day.

[Astro_80 (WASH YOUR HANDS!)]

Ignore her.

[MonikA2Gud]

By continuously letting her know and as well showing her she's not ugly. Us woman sometimes we need hard evidence to let us know we are not ugly even tho we are not

[Kr0n[]5]

For me, simply agreeing with them makes then so eager to disagree with you that they then change their own minds. But what do I know.

[Moderate my posterior.]

Ballgag