How do I make a woman stop calling herself ugly?

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G_lad (Banned) Apr 3, 2017 @ 12:28pm

So far pure logic and a crap ton of frank compliments don't work as intended. I don't feel like giving up.

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Scintella Apr 3, 2017 @ 12:33pm

Some women do this for attention, while others have an extremely low self-esteem. It's good to try and figure out whether she's suffering from depression or just lacks self confidence, or if she's whining about it solely for your affection.

G_lad (Banned) Apr 3, 2017 @ 12:35pm

Originally posted by Ghosten:
Some women do this for attention, while others have an extremely low self-esteem. It's good to try and figure out whether she's suffering from depression or just lacks self confidence, or if she's whining about it solely for your affection.

I assume she just has a low self-esteem; let's say, I'm giving her attention daily so it shouldn't be an issue.

captain gimmick Apr 3, 2017 @ 12:36pm

Originally posted by G_lad:
Originally posted by Ghosten:
Some women do this for attention, while others have an extremely low self-esteem. It's good to try and figure out whether she's suffering from depression or just lacks self confidence, or if she's whining about it solely for your affection.
I assume she just has a low self-esteem; let's say, I'm giving her attention daily so it shouldn't be an issue.

You would be suprised.

Scintella Apr 3, 2017 @ 12:36pm

Originally posted by G_lad:
Originally posted by Ghosten:
Some women do this for attention, while others have an extremely low self-esteem. It's good to try and figure out whether she's suffering from depression or just lacks self confidence, or if she's whining about it solely for your affection.
I assume she just has a low self-esteem; let's say, I'm giving her attention daily so it shouldn't be an issue.

Maybe you could try asking her why she feels the need to put herself down on a regular basis? I know it can be pretty annoying to deal with, but eventually I'm sure she'll stop.

G_lad (Banned) Apr 3, 2017 @ 12:38pm

Originally posted by Ghosten:
Originally posted by G_lad:
I assume she just has a low self-esteem; let's say, I'm giving her attention daily so it shouldn't be an issue.
Maybe you could try asking her why she feels the need to put herself down on a regular basis? I know it can be pretty annoying to deal with, but eventually I'm sure she'll stop.

I hope so, thanks mate.

Myrmicon Apr 3, 2017 @ 12:38pm

As far as I know whatever you do they do it anyways. Even if they are obviously not. So don't even bother.

Vile Apr 3, 2017 @ 12:40pm

In Psychology it is found that we as men struggle more with physical temptation while women suffer from mental temptation. When men get married or get into a serious relationship we will always have thoughts about what it would be like to be with another woman for the night. It's a constant battle that will never go away. My grandfather told me once that every time he would get into an argument with my grandmother he'd get a condom and go to the brothel hotel lol. I have never cheated on my fiancé and I don't ever want to because I don't want to be a dog like my father.

Now on topic. My fiancé, like every other woman, feels like she is fat at times because of all of the media says that if you are a size 3, you're fat, which is bogus. I've been with her for a long time and I've told her that she looks beautiful to me but if she really isn't happy with herself then she could go with me to the gym. I love her either way.

I'd suggest that unless you know your woman very well that you tell her that she's beautiful every time she calls herself fat. Telling her to go to the gym with you is a gamble because there's a chance that she will say "I knew it....I'm fat." Women suffer more from sadness and depression far more than the average man does.

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Scintella Apr 3, 2017 @ 12:42pm

Originally posted by G_lad:
Originally posted by Ghosten:
Maybe you could try asking her why she feels the need to put herself down on a regular basis? I know it can be pretty annoying to deal with, but eventually I'm sure she'll stop.
I hope so, thanks mate.

Good luck!

G_lad (Banned) Apr 3, 2017 @ 12:42pm

Originally posted by Deadsea_1993:
In Psychology it is found that we as men struggle more with physical temptation while women suffer from mental temptation. When men get married or get into a serious relationship we will always have thoughts about what it would be like to be with another woman for the night. It's a constant battle that will never go away. My grandfather told me once that every time he would get into an argument with my grandmother he'd get a condom and go to the ♥♥♥♥♥ house lol. I have never cheated on my fiancé and I don't ever want to because I don't want to be a dog like my father.

Now on topic. My fiancé, like every other woman, feels like she is fat at times because of all of the media says that if you are a size 3, you're fat, which is bogus. I've been with her for a long time and I've told her that she looks beautiful to me but if she really isn't happy with herself then she could go with me to the gym. I love her either way.

I'd suggest that unless you know your woman very well that you tell her that she's beautiful every time she calls herself fat. Telling her to go to the gym with you is a gamble because there's a chance that she will say "I knew it....I'm fat." Women suffer more from sadness and depression far more than the average man does.

And I thank you as much as the other guy.

bearsboi Apr 3, 2017 @ 12:46pm

Prove her wrong

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GLO BOY GOAT Apr 3, 2017 @ 1:08pm

just complement her every now and then

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Azza ☠ Apr 3, 2017 @ 1:13pm

Stop caring and giving attention for negative behaviour - like a dog, seeking rewards, they also learn to do bad habits if it gets them what they want.

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mimizukari Apr 3, 2017 @ 1:30pm

Originally posted by Deadsea_1993:
In Psychology it is found that we as men struggle more with physical temptation while women suffer from mental temptation. When men get married or get into a serious relationship we will always have thoughts about what it would be like to be with another woman for the night. It's a constant battle that will never go away. My grandfather told me once that every time he would get into an argument with my grandmother he'd get a condom and go to the brothel hotel lol. I have never cheated on my fiancé and I don't ever want to because I don't want to be a dog like my father.

Now on topic. My fiancé, like every other woman, feels like she is fat at times because of all of the media says that if you are a size 3, you're fat, which is bogus. I've been with her for a long time and I've told her that she looks beautiful to me but if she really isn't happy with herself then she could go with me to the gym. I love her either way.

I'd suggest that unless you know your woman very well that you tell her that she's beautiful every time she calls herself fat. Telling her to go to the gym with you is a gamble because there's a chance that she will say "I knew it....I'm fat." Women suffer more from sadness and depression far more than the average man does.

you're bias, you're only saying she's not fat because you're trying to justify her weight since she's the one you're with. if she actually is fat and needs to lose weight to stay healthy, you're doing nothing to aid that, eat healthier and lay off the treats.

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