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Gnardar Sep 11, 2015 @ 11:04am
Steam Stealth Mode?
Why is there not a Stealth Mode for chat? I'm not talking about setting my status to "Offline" I'm talking about appearing offline and still being able to chat to the people I want to. This would allow me to avoid certain people and it not be a problem.
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Emilio Sep 11, 2015 @ 12:26pm 
You can't have good friends if you have to avoid them. Tell people that you don't want to chat and they will respect your opinion.
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Gnardar Sep 11, 2015 @ 12:30pm 
Originally posted by Emilio:
You can't have good friends if you have to avoid them. Tell people that you don't want to chat and they will respect your opinion.

Sometimes you just dont want to talk to that particular friend.. it happens
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The Rock God Sep 11, 2015 @ 2:13pm 
Originally posted by Gnardar:
Originally posted by Emilio:
You can't have good friends if you have to avoid them. Tell people that you don't want to chat and they will respect your opinion.

Sometimes you just dont want to talk to that particular friend.. it happens

Then... don't talk to the person. It's pretty easy to do. You just... don't respond. It's not like you're forced to respond to people.
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Start_Running Sep 11, 2015 @ 4:46pm 
Originally posted by The Rock God:
Originally posted by Gnardar:

Sometimes you just dont want to talk to that particular friend.. it happens

Then... don't talk to the person. It's pretty easy to do. You just... don't respond. It's not like you're forced to respond to people.

Or just....unfriend them.
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Fiat 147 Sep 11, 2015 @ 6:01pm 
good idea dude.
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Kauldwin Sep 11, 2015 @ 9:47pm 
It's not really as simple as "don't talk to them" or "unfriend them." I have a lot of people I play with regularly on my friends list. I like them. I want to keep them on my friends list. But sometimes I get busy, or I only want to talk to my IRL friends and not my online friends, or what have you. Giving users a stealth option would allow me to appear offline and thus not offend any of my friends by not responding to them if I'm not in a chatty mood or whatever.

To turn this around, what would be a drawback to having this option? You don't have to use it if you don't like it.
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bnjc Sep 13, 2015 @ 7:30pm 
I would love to see this implemented, mostly to still be able to be online but yet not have anyone know you're online
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Falro the Great Sep 13, 2015 @ 7:58pm 
Or...or how about this: Say "Sorry, but I don't feel like talking right now". Y'know, like you would in real life? It's not like they're gonna get mad at you. And if they are, well, they weren't really your "friend" to begin with.
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Start_Running Sep 13, 2015 @ 8:04pm 
Originally posted by Falro the Great:
Or...or how about this: Say "Sorry, but I don't feel like talking right now". Y'know, like you would in real life? It's not like they're gonna get mad at you. And if they are, well, they weren't really your "friend" to begin with.

It honestly baffles me this trend. Want to be online but don't want friends to know they're onl.e then don't sign in to friends. That's a first step. Either people are really bad at picking friends or they believe that everyone is always looking at them.
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KoreRat Sep 14, 2015 @ 2:33am 
Some people just don't get things, but I totally understand this. An 'Invisible' setting as been standard in most IM platforms since the 90's. Because sometimes it easier to have someone think you're not around then tell them you're not in the mood to talk to them.
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Start_Running Sep 14, 2015 @ 2:38am 
Originally posted by KoreRat:
Some people just don't get things, but I totally understand this. An 'Invisible' setting as been standard in most IM platforms since the 90's. Because sometimes it easier to have someone think you're not around then tell them you're not in the mood to talk to them.

And as said.. the setting alread exists to appear offline.
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KoreRat Sep 14, 2015 @ 2:50am 
Originally posted by Start_Running:
Originally posted by KoreRat:
Some people just don't get things, but I totally understand this. An 'Invisible' setting as been standard in most IM platforms since the 90's. Because sometimes it easier to have someone think you're not around then tell them you're not in the mood to talk to them.

And as said.. the setting alread exists to appear offline.

As said, you don't get it. I want to talk to Friend X today, but not Friend Y. I know X will make small chat while we play our respective games, but Y will bug me to play something else or I'm just not in the mood to talk to them.

Honestly if you don't understand the mental thinking you're probably not going to. It falls under anxiety issues when dealing with people, some people calm us and others stress us. When we try to tell someone that we don't want to talk currently, they'll ask why, and then we have to try and explain things that make perfect sense in our heads, but are near impossible to articulate for others to understand. This isn't always the case obviously, but it only has to happen once for us to think its going to happen every time.

But like I said, most people just don't 'get' it.
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Start_Running Sep 14, 2015 @ 2:58am 
Originally posted by KoreRat:
Originally posted by Start_Running:

And as said.. the setting alread exists to appear offline.

As said, you don't get it. I want to talk to Friend X today, but not Friend Y. I know X will make small chat while we play our respective games, but Y will bug me to play something else or I'm just not in the mood to talk to them.

Huh, and rather than directly saying. Not interested in talking right now you'd rather evade. And of course set yourself up for majjor butt-hurt and drama when they find out otherwise because they will eventually. They'll meet a friend you have in common and one day they'll say. Oh X isn't online much these days and the other will sy. What? He's on right now. I'm chatting with him in another window."

Honestly if you don't understand the mental thinking you're probably not going to. It falls under anxiety issues when dealing with people, some people calm us and others stress us. When we try to tell someone that we don't want to talk currently, they'll ask why, and then we have to try and explain things that make perfect sense in our heads, but are near impossible to articulate for others to understand. This isn't always the case obviously, but it only has to happen once for us to think its going to happen every time.

Dude, been there saw a doctor for that. WHich is why I can say the best thing you can do is start developing your ability to 'not give a ♥♥♥♥'. People will actually understand and respect you more for direct comments. If you can't tell someone you'd consider a friend 'no not today' well then just unfriend them. If you have that little trust or respect for them they are clearly not friends.

But like I said, most people just don't 'get' it.

Most people do which is why those that do have experience with your problem and have moved beyond it know that evasion is the most useless thing you can do. In fact it's one of the most harmful things you can do.

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Ba[R]aD` Sep 14, 2015 @ 3:23am 
Originally posted by Emilio:
You can't have good friends if you have to avoid them. Tell people that you don't want to chat and they will respect your opinion.
in what world?
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Start_Running Sep 14, 2015 @ 3:42am 
Originally posted by BaRaD`:
Originally posted by Emilio:
You can't have good friends if you have to avoid them. Tell people that you don't want to chat and they will respect your opinion.
in what world?

In this world. People may not like or agree with you decision but they will respect you for being upfront with them.
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