Really bad harassment

[LOR ✧]

Someone in my Team Fortress 2 game decided it would be a good idea to harass my boyfriend in the game non-stop. Of course I stood up for him, which only made this person harass both of us. He then decided to search us BOTH on Facebook (mind you my Facebook is very private and can't be searched by name, so he had to find others on Facebook to get to me), and in doing so posted our Facebook URLS in game chats and made sprays using our pictures from our Facebook profiles. I banned him from the server I am admin on, deleted, blocked, and reported him. I had to ask someone to tell him to take the screenshot of the spray down, which he surprisingly did but I was then informed that the spray was still being used. This crossed a huge line, because he is taking people's pictures in order to mock them on a game. For some reason or another, his ban was lifted so I banned him again, seeing as I really don't trust this guy. He then decided to tell other people that I banned him because I'm insecure (good excuse), and that he's "really going to f**k" with me now. Insecurity had nothing to do with it, it was the fact that he was invading our privacy and putting our Facebook information out there. People have told me that he is using some site (Zeabra or something, I'm not sure, but its basically a people search site where if you put in their name, location, etc. you can find things about them) and plans to expose my personal (and maybe even my boyfriend's) information to other people on Team Fortress 2, and maybe even other games for all I know. Now what worries me is not only can this guy search me, but he can get my information and pictures and share it with everyone, and the risk of what people can do with that is huge. I usually brush internet "trolling" off, but I feel that this has gone far beyond that. I mean, let's look at how many rules he is breaking: posting personally identifiable information (i.e. name, address, phone number, etc.), insulting other members, offensive content (regarding what he said about us on the spray), threats of harassment. I also e-mailed Steam under Support, but I thought I would get this out there just to do anything I can to stop him.

[𝕊𝕋𝕌ℝ𝕄-𝕂𝔸𝕋]

Firstly let me say I totally sympathise with you, but I think Valve don't like anyone naming and shaming on here, it is against their policy :/

If you could remove the username from your OP that would be best. If it's the name of your server, then I apologise, carry on..

I feel for you..you're recovering from having your privacy invaded by a saaaaad little turd of a person who probably doesn't have any friends because his father just beat him daily throughout his childhood and so does not know the meaning of respect.....There are some sad wastes of space out there, who are beyond saving and should just be rounded up and shoved into the military and told to go blow other idiots like him up....

I suggest you change your usernames and passwords of your various accounts if you feel really worried about it, he will however get bored and find some other poor victim to entertain himself with...so try not to worry..He isn't a threat, just a sad prick.

[LOR ✧]

Thank you for pointing that out, I removed it. Wasn't sure if I should of named them or not, but I did not mean any harm by it.

And thank you very much for the support. I do not want to change my name, as its one I really like and I feel as though that will be me saying "here, you chased me away for good". It's sad to think that a ban from ONE server hurt him that much. I mean really, how many are out there and you're going to punish me for something stupid you did to get yourself banned?

I was really taken back when he said I only care because I'm insecure. Yeah, ok. Honestly, I'm 100% happy with who I am, and nothing anyone says will ever change that. The choice to not show myself on Steam/TF2 was just because I felt that shouldn't matter, and I am only there for a game. What bothers me is, as you said, my privacy was invaded. Not only mine, but my boyfriend's as well, who really did nothing to deserve to be treated that way. Nor did I, but I guess sticking up for my boyfriend is considered a "no no" to said person and they felt the need to harass me to this point.

Again, thank you. I really wanted to get this issue out there. I really don't know what he's hoping to find on me by a search, but I really never put anything on the internet (I am very catious of that).

P.S. All my albums on Facebook are private to, no one can even click on my profile picture, which meant they had to take a screenshot of my profile to get it. Glad they took the time out of their day to stalk people on Facebook, very productive.

P.P.S In the e-mail to Steam the name was mentioned. Should I not have done that? I only did it incase they wanted to look, seeing as it was only going to them and not other players

[𝕊𝕋𝕌ℝ𝕄-𝕂𝔸𝕋]

Quote: ''I do not want to change my name, as its one I really like and I feel as though that will be me saying "here, you chased me away for good".
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Don't worry about that, you can change it back..just will help throw him off, if he scans for it again..meh..up to you..

I can't speak for Valve, cos I'm just a measly peasant, but If you are e mailing them, you should provide all the information you can, so that they can do something about it...

When this situation arises, the best thing to do, is to go to their profile, block it, report it, giving clear but concise information on why you are reporting them, and then let Valve look into it.

All the best and I hope you and your Boyfriend can enjoy playing again without getting harassed. It is a very serious infringement and does take time to recover from, but after a while I'm sure you guys will be ok. Take care :)

[LOR ✧]

Yeah, I might change it for a little while just to see what happens. You're right, I can always change it back.

And I did send Valve the name they have been using. People sent me chats and such of what the person was saying, and as for the screenshots they were taken down so I really can't use those as proof anymore. Though people are on the lookout for the spray, and I told them to take a picture if they come across it again.

I did block and report right away (also banned them from my server), and when they made a scene about me banning them I sent them a message explaining why what they did crossed the line (I was not mean or insulting... maybe besides saying I don't get why they spent time searching people on Facebook). I really hope Valve looks into it soon, or that it just blows over, as I don't want this to be an ongoing issue and would just like to play games in peace. People have been messaging me a lot over the past couple of days about it...

Thank you very much! My boyfriend is a great guy, and I think I got more mad that he was targeted for no reason. He has also been helping with reporting and such, since he doesn't want any of or information out there either. It is very serious, and like you said I'm sure things will get better over time. Thanks again! :)

[2CanVanDamme]

What does the Bible say? An eye for an eye, step it up and take control of this guy by owning him online and then point him out on facebook as a troll, nuff said!

[𝕊𝕋𝕌ℝ𝕄-𝕂𝔸𝕋]

You have seriously misunderstood that...a COMMON mistake ....two wrongs DO NOT make a right.

OP, don't do anything! it will only make things worse :/

Keep it between you and Valve, and let Valve handle it. Don't take it into your own hands...
(I think I know you aren't going to do that)

[2CanVanDamme]

Publicado originalmente por TOFK Master Dan.:

You have seriously misunderstood that...a COMMON mistake ....two wrongs DO NOT make a right.

OP, don't do anything! it will only make things worse :/

Keep it between you and Valve, and let Valve handle it. Don't take it into your own hands...
(I think I know you aren't going to do that)

Sorry dude but sometimes it takes more than just running away and you know it. Im talking about when EVERY other avenue has been tried with no success. Just out of interest Master Dan how old are you as Im in my mid 30's and unless you're older or of the same age then I dont think you should comment on something that you have obviously never been through!

[𝕊𝕋𝕌ℝ𝕄-𝕂𝔸𝕋]

She's not running away. Yes it does take more than running away; She has taken the CORRECT and ONLY steps to deal with the problem.

You do realise that I have been through this?...

You do realise that I am in my mid 30's?...

You do realise how DREADFUL your advice was?...

You just have been playing your war games WAAAAY too much pal. You do NOT chase after a troll, derp. When dealing with harassment issues, you let Valve deal with it, you DO NOT take it into your own hands to go out for revenge. What kind of morals do you follow?...Quoting the bible?, and you wanna go stooping to his level?...You sure you're in your mid 30's? Or BS-ing me?...And what the hell has my age got to do with anything?..Hardly on topic here...

[2CanVanDamme]

How rude is your reply? And who nade you the god of advice lol!

[2CanVanDamme]

haha nade lol, I meant made.

[Tev]

Publicado originalmente por Lee78 Almighty:

How rude is your reply? And who nade you the god of advice lol!

I don't see exactly where he said something rude, whereas you excluded his help by saying he's too inexperienced to help with the issue without actually knowing him. I also disagree with the advice you gave here. Answering hate with more hate will not solve anything, infact it'll make things worse.

[«Gғм» Kid Of The Century]

Harassing other people on the Steam Community is not tolerated.

If OP provides enough proof to Steam Support, they'll likely ban him for good from the Steam Community. Harassing back is the most ill advice one could suggests, as it will put OP's account in trouble as well.

It might take a while for Support to find out exactly what happened and what's going on, but it is defintely the only way.

[Princess Damian]

You are doing the right thing sending info to Valve - give them as much info as possible to help them sort this out.

The root of all your woes here is facebook I hope thats clear - consider not leaving yourself so open online (your efforts to secure your facebook profile seem to indicate you are uncomfortable with it anyway!) - is there another way to keep up with your friends without doing it in public?

Stay safe!

[LOR ✧]

As a few of you have said, it's not the best idea to tackle this myself nor did I feel that would be a good way to go about it. When people said they would help me get back at them, I felt like not only would that fuel the fire, but that would be stooping down to their level which I really don't want to go to. Only things I ever said to them was they were getting banned, I better not see that spray, and that they need to stop wasting their time trying to mock us and just play the game as it's intended. (I also said they shouldn't call me insecure when they're the one searching Facebook for TF2 players... but fit of rage, I suppose. Never called them a name or anything though once).

I really do hope I have enough to prove this Steam, as most of the things mentioned have been taken down or removed by now, I mean, they had to assume I was going to report them at some time. And if I saved the picture myself, there's no way to really prove it came from them. As for messages, I'll have to ask my other Steam friends to send me their chats with this guy. I also hope Steam understands that I wouldn't go running to them for nothing, I never reported ANYONE before for anything. If I didn't feel like it was a big issue, I wouldn't of contacted them, so I hope they see where I'm coming from with this and while I felt so uncomfortable.

On the topic of my Facebook, I've had it for many years now. I believe I made it as private as I did around the time I got it because of random friend requests from people that didn't even live in the same country. The only thing visible on my profile (to the public) is my profile picture, my name (sadly that's how Facebook is), and some cover photos (which are of games and not me). I have every album, post, and piece of information private. The person found me most likely through my boyfriend's Facebook (since he was also a target), so I will suggest to him to not have his so public. It's not that I'm uncomfortable with anything Facebook, I mean its not the best thing in the world, but I do use it to talk to my friends who have gone off to college, or keep up with people I went to school with and can't keep up with other.

Thank you all for the help! Again, I'm hoping it all blows over and this person just gets tired of trying. They're banned from my server, so if they really want to mess with me as they said, the most they can do is screenshots again, and that will only provide more proof for me.

Guess I still can't wrap my head around why this person took the time out of their day to search for pictures and then make a spray with them on MS Paint... but thank you all again! :)

[𝕊𝕋𝕌ℝ𝕄-𝕂𝔸𝕋]

Well...I wouldn't worry really, because:

The best that can happen:
You never hear from him again and get on with your gaming in peace...

Worse that can happen:
He bothers you again, in which case, you will have an excellent opportunity to get some 'proof' on this dweeb. And Valve will be able to bear the big guns on him..

It'll be ok :)