Can't get friends on my server

[jsfb9]

Ive done everything I could find to correct this. Ive made a dedicated server, opened the ports on the router, allowed it through the firewall... added it to my favorite but the my ip says it's not responding. Only time a friend or I can get on one another's game is the first time we start a new player server. After we lif off and restart the game, the server disappears from the friends join server list. Im losing my mind trying to figure this out. Thanks.

[jsfb9]

引用自 Wariat117：

are you sure you gave them public IP and not LAN?
also do port checking websites say that ports are open? https://www.yougetsignal.com/tools/open-ports/

Since I got home, I rechecked the admin page. Everything from Netgear's instructions looks correct on what I did, yet that site you gave me still says that the ports are closed.

[Gorbush Creepgood]

Dedicated servers dont show up on the join friends list. You have to enter the IP manually.

About your server setup, are you hosting the server on your PC or a seperate machine? Are you using the Steam dedicated server app?

[jaxom.ocarrell]

may not have anything to do with it but. check that you are logged into steam friends and chat. if you are off line or not connected you will no show up on the server list. same goes for people who are looking for you they must be logged into steam friends and chat.

[Gorbush Creepgood]

引用自 jaxom.ocarrell：

may not have anything to do with it but. check that you are logged into steam friends and chat. if you are off line or not connected you will no show up on the server list. same goes for people who are looking for you they must be logged into steam friends and chat.

I'd like to add, if you have set your profile to private it wont work as well. You have to set it to public for it to show up for your friends. At least if you directly host the game on your PC.

[Nerd.Gamer.Dave]

If you have set up your port forwarding and all that correctly, it should work.
I am also assuming you are NOT launching the game via Valheim in steam. You MUST launch it via the server app every time you play otherwise the dedicated server does not boot up.

REMEMBER: You MUST run the dedicated Valheim server app. Otherwise you are not hosting a server, but running the game normally and are subject to the normal co-op gameplay options.

Assuming you are doing everything 100% correct with the dedicated server setup and launch:

Failed to connect errors are due to timing out usually. Means one of you (you or your friend) has a slower internet connection so it's struggling to connect.

For a temporary solution, maybe forgo trying to set up a dedicated server. Start a game normally and make the world then just invite your friends to hop in as you would without a server.

Once you get the server working, you can transplant that world seed into it along with all the progress you and others have made without issue.

[Wariat117]

引用自 jsfb9：

引用自 Wariat117：

are you sure you gave them public IP and not LAN?
also do port checking websites say that ports are open? https://www.yougetsignal.com/tools/open-ports/

To your first question, i'm not sure. Hope would I know the difference. Sorry, i'm a bit ignorant on these topics.

I opened the ports through my admin webpage for my router. Thanks for this link... it says that my port is closed. Now i have to figure out why.

when you go on the site i linked then it shows your public IP

LAN IP usually starts with 10.*.*.* or 192.168.*.* (* = anything can be in there)


as 1 person mentioned... opening ports is 1 thing
but you also need to port forward them to your computer, so router knows which computer is the server

[jsfb9]

引用自 NerdgamerDave：

If you have set up your port forwarding and all that correctly, it should work.
I am also assuming you are NOT launching the game via Valheim in steam. You MUST launch it via the server app every time you play otherwise the dedicated server does not boot up.

REMEMBER: You MUST run the dedicated Valheim server app. Otherwise you are not hosting a server, but running the game normally and are subject to the normal co-op gameplay options.

Assuming you are doing everything 100% correct with the dedicated server setup and launch:

Failed to connect errors are due to timing out usually. Means one of you (you or your friend) has a slower internet connection so it's struggling to connect.

For a temporary solution, maybe forgo trying to set up a dedicated server. Start a game normally and make the world then just invite your friends to hop in as you would without a server.

Once you get the server working, you can transplant that world seed into it along with all the progress you and others have made without issue.

I've done all of this and my wife who bought the game only sees the server the first time i create it. After i logout and log back in, she is never able to see it again on her friend server list.

[jsfb9]

引用自 Wariat117：

引用自 jsfb9：

To your first question, i'm not sure. Hope would I know the difference. Sorry, i'm a bit ignorant on these topics.

I opened the ports through my admin webpage for my router. Thanks for this link... it says that my port is closed. Now i have to figure out why.

when you go on the site i linked then it shows your public IP

LAN IP usually starts with 10.*.*.* or 192.168.*.* (* = anything can be in there)


as 1 person mentioned... opening ports is 1 thing
but you also need to port forward them to your computer, so router knows which computer is the server

I thought that the port forward entity is what did the opening. Port forwarding is what i used. Im about to give up... we live together and when we play borderlands 3, we're able to play together. I assumed that valheim worked under these same pretenses.

[Wariat117]

引用自 jsfb9：

I thought that the port forward entity is what did the opening. Port forwarding is what i used.

internet providers can close the ports
then you need to contact them and ask if they can open the port
(that's one of the possible problems if you are sure that firewall, antivirus and port forwarding are set properly)

you might also be in the same case as me, where internet provider doesn't block ports... but simply blocks portforwarding
all the portforwarding is done on internet provider's side and any port forwarding I do on my side is just waste of time~~

because of that I can't host public servers
only steam-hosted servers are a thing for me ;d (gladly game supports it)

引用自 jsfb9：

Im about to give up... we live together and when we play borderlands 3, we're able to play together. I assumed that valheim worked under these same pretenses.

if you live together then why bother port forwarding?
computers in the same network can join using LAN and ignore all the public connections


also, can you try if borderlands still works?
if yes, then you could try the page to see if borderlands ports say opened

[jsfb9]

引用自 Wariat117：

引用自 jsfb9：

I thought that the port forward entity is what did the opening. Port forwarding is what i used.

internet providers can close the ports
then you need to contact them and ask if they can open the port
(that's one of the possible problems if you are sure that firewall, antivirus and port forwarding are set properly)

you might also be in the same case as me, where internet provider doesn't block ports... but simply blocks portforwarding
all the portforwarding is done on internet provider's side and any port forwarding I do on my side is just waste of time~~

because of that I can't host public servers
only steam-hosted servers are a thing for me ;d (gladly game supports it)

By steam hosted do you mean the regular multiplayer server, that you host on your computer shes a friend logs and can play with you? Like i mentioned before, my wife who plays in the same room as me can only get in my game the first time i create a world. After that it never shows up on her friend list again. This is mind boggling.

I only did the port forwarding because i ran out of ideas.

[Wariat117]

引用自 jsfb9：

By steam hosted do you mean the regular multiplayer server, that you host on your computer shes a friend logs and can play with you?

in case of valheim I mean "start server" in game, without the "community" tick

[jsfb9]

引用自 Wariat117：

引用自 jsfb9：

By steam hosted do you mean the regular multiplayer server, that you host on your computer shes a friend logs and can play with you?

in case of valheim I mean "start server" in game, without the "community" tick

Yes, that's what i was talking about... and we're having issues even in that regard as well. I just logged bordelands 3 into both of our computers and it worked fine. She could access my game there, so it's definitely something with valheim over here. We even reversed the roles and created a world on her computer and the same thing happened.

[jsfb9]

引用自 Wariat117：

引用自 jsfb9：

By steam hosted do you mean the regular multiplayer server, that you host on your computer shes a friend logs and can play with you?

in case of valheim I mean "start server" in game, without the "community" tick

In the friend chat thing on steam, for bordelands 3 it says join game as an option, but it's not the case when we are both playing valheim.

[jsfb9]

I literally just created a new world through steam (non-dedicated) on her computer. It came up in my friends list in game, so I joined. Then 5 minutes later, I logged her out and then back in again into that new world. I turned my game back on, looked in friends servers, her server was there for a second and then if vanished and never came back. This is what we have been through now multiple times. I have tried everything imaginable. This has to be a bug...I'm surprised that this isnt happening to you guys as well.

[jsfb9]

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