annoying skyrim modding issue for followers

[Otanum]

so ive been working on using mods for a bit and i feel like i got everything down and figured out (FINALLY!!!) but i have this one issue now where when i speak to certain female followers they have an option where i can say "may we have a moment?" that leads to "lets go somewhere more private". the issue is after that i cant interact with them anymore and they just follow me like a follower, at first i thought just to ignore it and evade choosing it than, but one of my followers suddenly stated they cant hold it anymore and requested it too me, and now i cant interact with her
I need to know which mod this is so i can try and fix it, ive been trying to figure out what it is but im stuck and im hoping someone else can assist me on it
ive been using almost all the mods from the ostim istall guide, and a few others

[HazakTheMad]

Sounds like a sex mod has broke on you.

[Otanum]

i feel as though it might be a incomplete one, if not, most likely not installed correctly, im hoping if anyone recognizes the phrase "may we have a moment?" from any mods

[Ihateeverybody]

Oprivacy. Part of the Ostim (and Osex) suite. Not broken. Works very well (if you have all the pre reqs).

Now there is an Ostim/ORomance or I am glad you are Here Mod issue I have found where if you do a kiss or Embrace it affects them in a way that keeps them from following correctly (drove me crazy till I figured it out). Solution was to repeat it (I still haven't figured out which is the culprit.

IF You have all the mods and haven't updated them during a playthrough (Ostim is NOTORIOUS for having issues upgrading DURING a playthrough. They basicly say that straight up and my experience bears it out. DO NOT UPDATE Ostim (or most other O mods) during a playthrough. Start a new game. Animations updates are ok I find, if you run finus or the other one (Nemisis?) and then update Animations database in OSTIM Configuration.

You can also Try Resetting the Ostim CPU Thread (Its the option in the left column in Configuration above updating Animation Database)(It might be called something else so Check).

Edit: Make sure to backup your saves just incase anything I suggest makes it worse.

[Otanum]

yea i found out what it was after i started on a none modded save, so many issues, but everything is fine now thx