When to Tie the Knot

[DannySuperNoob]

So I finally have 10 hearts with Abigail and saw the final cutscene with her in the mines. So I bought the mermaid pendant and when I went to give it to her, idk why, but my head kept saying,
"Hold up, we shouldn't do this yet." I currently have a decent farm but don't have the nursery in my house yet, but before I consider marrying Abigail, I have a few questions:

If I marry, is it possible Abigail could have children before I have the nursery?

How much does a wife and/or children impact the game (how extreme are the changes, and what are they?)?

Are their any new responsibilities I have to undertake (I feel busy enough in the game, sometimes I literally write down what I plan to do each day bc I'm scatter-brained as hell :p)?

After marraige, is it possible I can screw up my relationship if I continue to give gifts to the other bachelorettes/bachelors?

I might update this thread if I have any more questions

Thank :-)

[CeliriaRose]

There's no real reason to need to hold off on marriage unless you just feel like waiting although the spouses do offer the benefit that they will ocaisionally help out with your farm by watering crops, fixing fences or other various chores (to be clear this is a random chance thing so it's not overly common and isn't something you should rely on happening frequently).

You can't have children before getting the nursery. The way the game works is once you have the nursery there is a random chance that your spouse will ask you about having kids and you will get a yes or no option.

There aren't really any responsibilities other than the usual gift giving to keep your spouse happy and you can also give them hugs which helps keep them happy as well.

There is jealousy in the game and your spouse won't be happy about you giving gifts to spouses.

[NotThatHarkness]

The change to the game on getting married is pretty minimal. There are no responsibilities you "have" to take. You might want to stockpile gifts you know your spouse likes and gift regularly. I do that and gift my spouse almost every morning to keep him at 13/12 hearts. I also talk to my spouse every morning and right click to hug. It's a slightly different morning ritual, not a major change in how I play each day. (Oh, once I get kids I always right click to hug them every morning too, to get their relationship up, unfortunately you cannot gift your children.)

As said above, you can only have children once the nursery is built. Your spouse will randomly ask. Supposedly you can give your spouse a 2nd bouquet when you are ready, if you don't want to wait. Maybe that only works with heterosexual marriages. My male character married Alex and after giving him a second bouquet the conversation indicated he knew what that signified but it was almost a month later before he asked if I wanted to adopt a child. Giving him that bouquet didn't really seem to do anything.

I've had the relationship with spouses drop to 11/12 hearts. That might be random or it might be due to giving gifts to other marriage candidates. I've never paid close enough attention to tell. I also haven't given bouquets to the other singles, I leave them at 8 hearts. If you spouse does get upset I would think just gifting them regularly would make up for it. I always look up in the wiki what my spouse loves and have some of that on hand for such occasions.

And finally, once you are married there's a random chance your spouse will give you a stardrop when they are at 13/12 hearts. Depending on your energy maximum that could be a reason to get married sooner rather than later. Note: the 13/12 only show up on the tool tip when you hover the cursor over the relationship icon in the conversation dialog box. You will only see 12 hearts on the villager relationship panel.

[DannySuperNoob]

Originally posted by CeliriaRose:

There's no real reason to need to hold off on marriage unless you just feel like waiting although the spouses do offer the benefit that they will ocaisionally help out with your farm by watering crops, fixing fences or other various chores (to be clear this is a random chance thing so it's not overly common and isn't something you should rely on happening frequently).

You can't have children before getting the nursery. The way the game works is once you have the nursery there is a random chance that your spouse will ask you about having kids and you will get a yes or no option.

There aren't really any responsibilities other than the usual gift giving to keep your spouse happy and you can also give them hugs which helps keep them happy as well.

There is jealousy in the game and your spouse won't be happy about you giving gifts to spouses.

Thx for the info guys 😀