I'm rather ashamed to admit this...

[StormKnightSera]

...but Clair Obscur is, like, the only thing in life I'm truly looking forward to at the moment.

Without going full-TMI, my ongoing struggle with depression and whatnot feels at times like a war I'm destined to lose one day, so it's been hard to muster an abundance of interest in things. Not to mention the general suck-itude of the world's happenings at the moment, especially here in the US. So...yeah. It seems rather pathetic that I cannot muster much excitement for anything except a video game, and yet I am fully hyped for this one. I watch all the trailers, and when new videos come out I turn around and watch the old ones again. Everything about the title screams "this is the game for me!", and while I have others on my radar, certainly, none of them remotely compare.

I'm kind of scared as-to what'll happen after I'm done playing Clair Obscur, but for now, I will relish and cling onto this passion I feel toward it.

[Slayer]

Same.

[timnil]

Videogames and other forms of art can certainly help keep you on an even keel. Although having a psychiatrist and therapist is a good idea also if you can afford it, so please look into that if you have an opportunity. Best of luck to you.

[StormKnightSera]

Ursprünglich geschrieben von timnil:

Videogames and other forms of art can certainly help keep you on an even keel. Although having a psychiatrist and therapist is a good idea also if you can afford it, so please look into that if you have an opportunity. Best of luck to you.

I have a therapist, as I said earlier in the thread, but thank you for the words nevertheless.

[Domelius]

Ursprünglich geschrieben von StormKnightSera:

...but Clair Obscur is, like, the only thing in life I'm truly looking forward to at the moment.

Without going full-TMI, my ongoing struggle with depression and whatnot feels at times like a war I'm destined to lose one day, so it's been hard to muster an abundance of interest in things. Not to mention the general suck-itude of the world's happenings at the moment, especially here in the US. So...yeah. It seems rather pathetic that I cannot muster much excitement for anything except a video game, and yet I am fully hyped for this one. I watch all the trailers, and when new videos come out I turn around and watch the old ones again. Everything about the title screams "this is the game for me!", and while I have others on my radar, certainly, none of them remotely compare.

I'm kind of scared as-to what'll happen after I'm done playing Clair Obscur, but for now, I will relish and cling onto this passion I feel toward it.

Stay away from toxic forums, cut down on external unnecessary news that only tend to stress people out - spend more time with nature & animals and minimise the triggers if possible. Get help and get meds to balance whatever is going on in your head.

People who have depression will need professional help if they cannot manage it themselves. Seems you do need a specialist to take care of you.

Force yourself to move and exercise. Change your routines.

That is my short advice (from a 40+ year old married dude with 89 hours played in last two weeks). Self-burn.

[Toddness]

With summer coming up, I recommend a good walk every day outside. You won't believe how much it'll help you.

[tankanidis]

Ursprünglich geschrieben von Axelhander:

Video games should never be your anchor in life. Ever.

100%

I think the others who are attacking you for saying this are deluded into thinking that toxic positivity can somehow overcome all obstacles which is a dangerous path to follow when it inevitably fails

If someone is depressed they need to confront the reasons for their depression and separate them into individual reasons and work towards improving their station in life

Ignoring that and living in a fantasy world will only ever delay and make worse that realisation later

There's nothing wrong with enjoying the mental escapism and fantasy that comes from Fantasy IP's, but there -must- always be a clear distinction between what is fantasy and make believe, and what is actual reality

You can hate reality, you can despise it, you can feel anyway you want towards it, but you must always understand what is and isn't real at all times otherwise you will lose your sense of self and get dragged along by emotions

Enjoy your video games, but its a hobby, not a replacement of your personality or sense of self

If you're unhappy with your life, write down everything you feel is holding you back and affecting you and work towards improving each dot point one by one to the best of your ability

If you need to talk to someone, do so, but don't get caught in the trap of endlessly talking about your problems over years without any action otherwise you will suffer from analysis paralysis on how to move forward and also begin to indulge in feeling like a victim of your circumstances

You might have been dealt an unfair hand of cards in life, but it's up to you to choose how you play them or improve them

You're always in control, don't ever forget that.

[StormKnightSera]

Ursprünglich geschrieben von tankanidis:

Ursprünglich geschrieben von Axelhander:

Video games should never be your anchor in life. Ever.

100%
...
You're always in control, don't ever forget that.

I must admit I'm a little confused, because you're obviously not the first person to talk along these lines, and yet I don't believe I gave any indication that I am unable to discern what is real and what is not. I struggle to find interest in real-life activities and stuff, yes, but I'm aware that hiding behind a computer screen for the rest of my life won't solve anything. Somewhere along the line that turned into a fear that I'm replacing Clair Obscur with my personality or sense of self, which doesn't make a whole lotta sense to me to be honest.

I am super hyped about the game, and watch whatever I can to get a glimpse of more of it. I eagerly await my opportunity to get my hands on Clair Obscur (but not in a creepy way). But I also go to work, or Family Game Night on Fridays, or Easter dinner today. I'm capable of doing stuff; I just don't feel particularly high about those things, like I do Clair Obscur currently.

Maybe I'm off-base myself, but the assumption that I've somehow lost control over my own narrative is kinda disconcerting, almost gaslighting. If anything, I'm hyper-aware of what I could be doing with my life if I were 100% emotionally and mentally regulated. unfortunately, being aware of the problem and being in a healthy position to tackle the problem are two different things.

[leonnolan]

Ursprünglich geschrieben von Axelhander:

Video games should never be your anchor in life. Ever.

Then what should be? Sportsball?

[Brocknoth]

Ursprünglich geschrieben von Axelhander:

Video games should never be your anchor in life. Ever.

They can be an anchor but they shouldn't be the *only* anchor. When possible a person should have multiple hobbies and ways to help mitigate the more depressing parts of being human. Putting all your eggs into a single basket is just a short road to disappointment.

[river]

Ursprünglich geschrieben von Leslie:

OP's issue is very real to them and they should not feel ashamed for it. Depression is a condition many others have to deal with in this world and that you are not alone in. There is nothing wrong with talking about it with others and seeking help for it.

Ursprünglich geschrieben von Axelhander:

While I agree it's unhealthy, the OP acknowledges that. And while religion is very useful as a grounding force for some, it is not what everyone needs; peddling this is disingenuous and selfish.

Agreed accepting Jesus as savior doesn't guarantee all their earthly problems will be fixed (or at least not in the ways expected). What it does guarantee is eternal life through His salvation which is uplifting, knowing that an all loving Father is always there for them, that they are being guided where they need to be, and that they can call on Him for support in prayer whenever they find themselves in need.

I'd like to leave a few supportive verses below for all who are interested:

The LORD is near to the brokenhearted
And saves those who are crushed in spirit.
- Psalm 34:18

Whoever confesses that Jesus is the Son of God, God abides in him, and he in God. We
have come to know and have believed the love which God has for us. God is love, and
the one who abides in love abides in God, and God abides in him. By this, love is
perfected with us, so that we may have confidence in the day of judgment; because as
He is, so also are we in this world. There is no fear in love; but perfect love casts out fear,
because fear involves punishment, and the one who fears is not perfected in love. We
love, because He first loved us. If someone says, “I love God,” and hates his brother, he is
a liar; for the one who does not love his brother whom he has seen, cannot love God
whom he has not seen. And this commandment we have from Him, that the one who
loves God should love his brother also.
- 1 John 4: 15-21
*Note: brother here means brother or sister.

I'm sure you know the quote by Augustine, right? "You have created us for Yourself, O God, and our hearts are restless until they rest in You." We all have the God-shaped hole in our heart and that won't ever be remedied until we are reconciled back to our Creator via Jesus. We try to fill it with entertainment, media, shows, people, and more - but that will never fix the problem. But if we humble ourselves, turn from our sins, and trust in Jesus (genuinely) then we will be satisfied all of our days.

[Tanuki Parade]

F### em all, you do you. I started playing my ukulele again after 10 years because social media is so toxic. Watch ukulele videos on youtube instead of reels of people falling off of roofs.

[StormKnightSera]

Ursprünglich geschrieben von river:

We all have the God-shaped hole in our heart and that won't ever be remedied until we are reconciled back to our Creator via Jesus. We try to fill it with entertainment, media, shows, people, and more - but that will never fix the problem. But if we humble ourselves, turn from our sins, and trust in Jesus (genuinely) then we will be satisfied all of our days.

I'd be satisfied if ya'll would stop doing this...

Ursprünglich geschrieben von Tanuki Parade:

F### em all, you do you. I started playing my ukulele again after 10 years because social media is so toxic. Watch ukulele videos on youtube instead of reels of people falling off of roofs.

Hehe it's hard to be upset or down in the dumps when you're listening to a ukulele; can it even perform something sad? It's typecast as the ultimate happy-instrument :)

[Sailor Gloom]

the next game release is all thats really dragging me through life, I mean its a bunch of little things "just gotta make it to lunch", "just gotta make it to the weekend" etc.
Im quite looking forward to this though, havent played a good turn based rpg in a long time and really hoping this scratches the itch. I got time off work, gonna be a proper frenchie and go to the local bakery and get a baguette to snack on while I play. :D