Married, but No Spouse in my Court?

[Hussar]

So I'm trying out Bohemia ... and after a few deaths, one of the brother's rules the Kingdom. However, the spouse is not in the Court. However, he is married.

Is there something that is preventing the spouse from advising him in the Court?

Thanks,

[Khan Boyzitbig of Mercia]

If the spouse is an adventurer or landed character she will have her own "court" and thus will not be able to in his.

[PostalGibbon]

Is spouse a landed ruler outside of your brothers Kingdom?

[Silverlock]

If the spouse serves in another court then they would not be available to serve in their spouses court. This will sometimes happen if their child or maybe a sibling became a ruler. Just click on the spouse and see who their liege is.

[jpcerutti]

As above, also:

Spouses can also wander, sometimes quite quickly if their traits clash or they have past events that give them low opinion, if they are not given a position in their spouses/lieges court.

Usually they are at least filling the "spouse" slot (so it happens with multiple wives) but they may need to be assigned to the position. The AI sometimes takes months to fill advisor slots.

[kalanyr]

Originally posted by Khan Boyzitbig of Mercia:

If the spouse is an adventurer or landed character she will have her own "court" and thus will not be able to in his.

Direct vassals are still available for this purpose even if Landed. I suspect that it's impossible to make an Adventurer a vassal though so not sure how this would work in that case, I assume it'd be like marrying an Independent Ruler (you can often vassalize holders of titular titles by taking over the nominal capital of their title if you're high enough rank (so King for most of them (Pope and Patriach require you to be an Emperor) but given that Adventurers can move their camp I don't think this will work on them).

[Delta-Kilo]

There are a number of possibilities depending on your spouses titles and traits. As others have pointed out, if they have a title of their own, they usually have a court of their own and will be unavailable for yours. Additionally, it they are an artisan, someone may commission them, prompting them to take off and work in someone else's court for a while. Finally, as others too have noted, they do sometimes wander off on a lark on rare occasion. In any event, simply clicking on them will tell you where they are and what they are doing.

[Hussar]

The wife is Unlanded. I don't think she can be a "Wanderer" because that sounds like something from a DLC ... I'm a new player with just the base game.

I do see she is "Visiting another Court." So how do I tell her to get her ass back home and help? And what decides them to leave?

[kalanyr]

Wandering is in the base game, a Wanderer is just a character that has no "home" they wander around the world and are where things like Guests and some characters for events are pulled from.

[Hussar]

So my king dies, had kids, but his spouse never showed up at court. Somehow she was preggo with the king's offspring. Talk about scandalous.

[Ashling]

Originally posted by Hussar:

So my king dies, had kids, but his spouse never showed up at court. Somehow she was preggo with the king's offspring. Talk about scandalous.

I think they're expected to make visits which aren't accounted for in-game. I know in CK2, while your ruler was off at war commanding an army, they had a reduced chance of making babies (which might lead to suspicious pregnancies). But that might not be the case in 3.