Stopping family stress death chain?

[st0815]

Hi, is it possible to stop a stress death chain? My ruler has 0 stress, then 1 of 20 brothers/sisters dies. Suddenly 10 more die of stress and sometimes my char too. Can I stop this or prevent it?

[shiggies713]

some diplomacy perks can make it to where having friends decrease stress gain, certain traits will as well from mental breakdowns, i believe athletic being the best one and probably flaggelant the worst. Sometimes friends will just give you an event and help with stress. If you can get a pet through an event always take it unless you already have one (cat vs dog).

Holding feast help, even more if you are a reveler, hunts and more so if you are a hunter etc.

If you are a king or higher and not tribal you can increase lodgings for less stress gain and increase food for more stress loss (during events). Furthermore if you increase lodgings and commision artifacts its probable you'll get higher quality ones, and possibly even ones to help with stress.

Also traits help. For some reason i always get a choice between being callous or compassionate, and honestly i think callous is way better. Or for example being forgiving and compassionate as the leader of a huge Empire with dozens of vassals plotting against you probably is going to be a terrible curse lol. You can't do anything to eliminate plotters without causing yourself stress.

Legacies too, court focus, there is really a lot into it you can do to basically make yourself and your court nearly immune to stress.

[st0815]

Originally posted by shiggies713:

some diplomacy perks can make it to where having friends decrease stress gain, certain traits will as well from mental breakdowns, i believe athletic being the best one and probably flaggelant the worst. Sometimes friends will just give you an event and help with stress. If you can get a pet through an event always take it unless you already have one (cat vs dog).

Holding feast help, even more if you are a reveler, hunts and more so if you are a hunter etc.

If you are a king or higher and not tribal you can increase lodgings for less stress gain and increase food for more stress loss (during events). Furthermore if you increase lodgings and commision artifacts its probable you'll get higher quality ones, and possibly even ones to help with stress.

Also traits help. For some reason i always get a choice between being callous or compassionate, and honestly i think callous is way better. Or for example being forgiving and compassionate as the leader of a huge Empire with dozens of vassals plotting against you probably is going to be a terrible curse lol. You can't do anything to eliminate plotters without causing yourself stress.

Legacies too, court focus, there is really a lot into it you can do to basically make yourself and your court nearly immune to stress.

My court lodging is at max. I'm an emperor and just used all the decision options like hunting. I can deal with my stress but not with that of my familiy members. Can I lower their stress level?

[avil]

Originally posted by st0815:

My court lodging is at max. I'm an emperor and just used all the decision options like hunting. I can deal with my stress but not with that of my familiy members. Can I lower their stress level?

You can't.
I also wish family members picked safer options. For some reason it's always a drunk (especially annoying when muslim), flagellant (my bleeder heir got it and died very fast) or some kind of spender giving you fixed income maluses, what kills your progress in early game =_=. Why it's never a hashih or self-isolation based traits? In 500 hours I don't even remember getting an option to be rakish, forget your heirs picking it, you probably must have some lust related traits. Although it's probably a bad one since you can get annoying to look at bonuses with it.

[st0815]

Originally posted by avil:

Originally posted by st0815:

My court lodging is at max. I'm an emperor and just used all the decision options like hunting. I can deal with my stress but not with that of my familiy members. Can I lower their stress level?

You can't.

Dammit. I need an option to throw like a really big family party to reduce stress for everyone.

[Gorgeous_Joe]

While you are asking the developers about this, can you also ask them why i can only pet my dog once every five years for stress relief?

[shiggies713]

you can help your family by being their guardian and trying to give them traits like callous etc. My current ruler and most my sons are all callous. When my family and friends die i gain 6 stress, its nothing. I get enough stress loss from random events i never need to worry about it.

[st0815]

Originally posted by shiggies713:

you can help your family by being their guardian and trying to give them traits like callous etc. My current ruler and most my sons are all callous. When my family and friends die i gain 6 stress, its nothing. I get enough stress loss from random events i never need to worry about it.

I have too many children for that and even when I'm the guardian I often don't get the event for callous.

[shiggies713]

aha, i found the best one yet. Use the Stoic cultural ethos, -15% stress for all people of that culture. That should help if it is always a problem.

[Darkhorse1975]

Originally posted by st0815:

Originally posted by shiggies713:

you can help your family by being their guardian and trying to give them traits like callous etc. My current ruler and most my sons are all callous. When my family and friends die i gain 6 stress, its nothing. I get enough stress loss from random events i never need to worry about it.

I have too many children for that and even when I'm the guardian I often don't get the event for callous.

If you have too many kids, try pairing up the extras kids with guardians with good intelligence and personality traits you like and the kids will have a decent chance at picking up the same traits.