Paladin Oaths in Multiplayer

[Irenicus]

My apologies if this has already been answered but I found contradictory information online. Say I pick Oath if Ancients Paladin and I'm playing with my friend who is the party leader and will be doing all the talking. She is gonna be a very evil character. Will my oath he broken by her conversation choices or do I have to literally kill an innocent? Where does it start and where does it end? Anyone who's tested this your insight would be appreciated. Because I will avoid paladin most likely if her choices affect my oath. I'm not playing paladin for roleplaying as I'm essentially an npc in her party in her game. I just want it for the abilities, and while oath breaker is cool I have my eyes set in Turn the Faithless as I've had a very good experience with it.

[Tax evasion]

If you're listening to a conversation where one of your party members is the main talker (choosing the "listen" option on a dialogue they initiated), and they choose something that would break your oath. Then yes, it would break your oath. Because the option that they choose counts as everyone listening saying it.

according to this reddit post : https://www.reddit.com/r/BaldursGate3/comments/14tk172/paladin_oath_in_multiplayer/

[Lani]

I would consider it impossible to make it through a play-through without you breaking your oath or following it and turning your friend into foe when they are consistently evil.
Oath of Ancients is less flexible than Wyll or Karlach's moralities. Anything that'd make them leave would definitely break your Oath too.
The game is very flexible, but not *that* flexible. it'd be cool if you could walk away like them though. It'd be the end of your play-through of course, but definitely in character.