Lae'zel missed long rest "bonding"?

[priess]

First playthtough here but I decided to go somewhat niche, playing as male githyianki, roleplaying basically Lae'zel's soulmate. Therefore, Lae'zel was the obvious romance option and I had no problem maintaining her on max approval from the get-go.
However, a few hours into Act 3, when I talked to her she told me that I didn't make any moves and she felt like I didn't care or something.
The problem might be that I try to keep long rests to a minimum. That made me think I might have missed something and a quick google search found a mention of a duelling scene in Act 2 which I never got.
Does this mean this romance is over, or is there any chance to salvage it? Should I perhaps just longrest 10 times in a row in hopes of catching up?

[アンジェル]

Originally posted by priess:

Lae'zel missed long rest "bonding"?
First playthtough here but I decided to go somewhat niche, playing as male githyianki, roleplaying basically Lae'zel's soulmate. Therefore, Lae'zel was the obvious romance option and I had no problem maintaining her on max approval from the get-go.
However, a few hours into Act 3, when I talked to her she told me that I didn't make any moves and she felt like I didn't care or something.
The problem might be that I try to keep long rests to a minimum. That made me think I might have missed something and a quick google search found a mention of a duelling scene in Act 2 which I never got.
Does this mean this romance is over, or is there any chance to salvage it? Should I perhaps just longrest 10 times in a row in hopes of catching up?

I do not think there is any chance for catching up anything at that point. Before the duel there are two ... excersise scenes.

[priess]

Yeh we bumped uglies twice, but it's been a while, especially considering how direct she's been from the beginning.
I did the trial of love in the Circus with her right after that aforementioned conversation and she responded well so I still don't know what to think.

[seeker1]

Two ways to know if romance is on or off ...

One requires a mod ... script extender ... can tell you (and also change the status, but at least just tell you).

The in-game way works with every lady but Minthara. Can you discuss the relationship with them? Can you ask for a kiss? (I guess the third way is do they NOT greet you with something indicating the relationship has soured. Shadowheart for example likes to greet you as an ex-lover, as if to rub it in.) If so: it's still on.

On a more general point: the thing about this game is LRs often progress pretty important events and quests, as well as the romances. You probably want to take more than you need from a utility perspective, for that reason. And again, camp supplies are almost practically infinite in this game, so there's no reason not to.

[Evangeline]

"The problem might be that I try to keep long rests to a minimum."

I made this mistake too and now restarting the game. My bet is you missed a lot of other events too, dreams, etc

[priess]

Originally posted by seeker1:

The in-game way works with every lady but Minthara. Can you discuss the relationship with them? Can you ask for a kiss? (I guess the third way is do they NOT greet you with something indicating the relationship has soured. Shadowheart for example likes to greet you as an ex-lover, as if to rub it in.) If so: it's still on.

The only option I have with LZ is to "break our fling off". I'll try the script extender later today and if I see it's gone I might reload a save from Act 2 and try a few long rests there if anything changes, otherwise I guess this githyianki's only pleasure is that of battle, tsk'va.

Thanks for all the answers!

[priess]

Confirmed, by missing the duel in Act 2, the romance opportunity faded away. After Vlaakith appeared during a long rest in Act 3, LZ said she's only going to focus on her mission and even the "ending our fling" conversation option disappeared.
So I guess I'm replaying the Moonrise Towers

[EricHVela]

Most romances seem to need to have a "locked-in" state by the time a player enters the Shadowfell. This doesn't always require a "love scene" before Act III, but for some, it does.

No romance arcs have to be locked in before going into the Shadow-Cursed Lands (and some cannot get to that point until certain events happen in the Shadow-Cursed Lands).

[Brian_the_Brute]

Lae'zel needs you to inspire her. She gets turned on by victories in combat. Gotta check in at camp often or you miss out on the excitement.

[Mike Garrison]

You *have* to do the Act 2 in-camp fight with Lae'Zel. Win or lose doesn't matter, but you have to do the fight.