Baldur's Gate 3

Baldur's Gate 3

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Flufferpup Sep 20, 2023 @ 3:41pm
Astarion romance cut off in act 2?
So to avoid spoilers, I did a certain thing in act 2 that astarion didn't like, after which he said we should "sleep separately from now on." Does that mean I'm cut off from romancing Astarion from that point on? I'm not gonna reload a save but if so, it's a shame to lose out on my sassy vampire bf lol.
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Rabbit Sep 20, 2023 @ 3:43pm 
I haven't romanced him myself but it sure sounds like he dumped you. A mistake can definitely get you dumped in the game.
Rabidnid Sep 20, 2023 @ 3:46pm 
Originally posted by Flufferpup:
So to avoid spoilers, I did a certain thing in act 2 that astarion didn't like, after which he said we should "sleep separately from now on." Does that mean I'm cut off from romancing Astarion from that point on? I'm not gonna reload a save but if so, it's a shame to lose out on my sassy vampire bf lol.

No, it all happens in act 3 with astarion anyway. I romanced lae'zel in act 1 and she was hardly over the middle of the approval track so it really has nothing to do with romance.
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rservello Sep 20, 2023 @ 3:48pm 
Originally posted by Flufferpup:
So to avoid spoilers, I did a certain thing in act 2 that astarion didn't like, after which he said we should "sleep separately from now on." Does that mean I'm cut off from romancing Astarion from that point on? I'm not gonna reload a save but if so, it's a shame to lose out on my sassy vampire bf lol.
Sounds like YA DUMPED. I let him feed on me...then we had the romance scene...then I didn't let him do anything else. Then in Act 2 he came to me and I said, maybe what you need is a friend, not a lover and he was like, damn, I've had so many lovers and never really had a friend. Then he actually smiled. Like not a sinister smile as he screws someone over...but like a genuine smile...his cheeks even got read (strange for a vampire)
Shawnerz Sep 20, 2023 @ 3:48pm 
If you make him drink the drows blood he dumps you afaik.
Flufferpup Sep 20, 2023 @ 4:25pm 
Originally posted by Shawnerz:
If you make him drink the drows blood he dumps you afaik.

See that's the thing, I didn't make him do anything, my PC just asked him to. And at the camp, I was sympathetic about it. It feels like more of a hitch in the relationship to move on and grow from than something you call it quits over.

If it is a cut off, I feel like some nuance is lost.
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Larry Sep 20, 2023 @ 4:29pm 
Companion romances are flat out broken. It's like a minefield knowing what the writers wanted to get across half the time. The other time you're wondering if the game's just bugged out. My journal says Shadowheart is both a worshipper of Lady Shar and culling traitors in the temple of Shar and also says she's turned her back on Shar and has sided with Selune. It's incredibly buggy right now.

The entire companion system needs to be reworked. I'm of mind to believe it was so broken the devs just said "Let all companions just be open for business at all time unless you do very specific things" as a bandaid fix to launch the game.

I love the game but I'm sorry: The companions are the weakest part of the game by a country mile. The interactions are completely broken.
BitterHeals Sep 20, 2023 @ 4:32pm 
Yes, asking him to drink the drow's blood makes him dump you. The romance is ended there.
Midian13 Sep 20, 2023 @ 4:47pm 
Originally posted by Flufferpup:
Originally posted by Shawnerz:
If you make him drink the drows blood he dumps you afaik.

See that's the thing, I didn't make him do anything, my PC just asked him to. And at the camp, I was sympathetic about it. It feels like more of a hitch in the relationship to move on and grow from than something you call it quits over.

Yep, he dumped you, and good for him. He specifically said he didn't want to do it and why and you had him do it anyway. You decided to offer him up for a potion from a crazy Drow. It's about being used, which goes back to Cazador , it's about him learning to say no and having it accepted, which goes back to his abuse/enslavement, and since your character doesn't care what he wants, or lacks any understanding of why, then he's better off just being allies.
NightingaleMuse Sep 20, 2023 @ 5:07pm 
Short answer: You're dumped.

Longer answer: There is a way to get both the potion and keep the romance. You have to pick very specific dialogue options, so if you're willing to save scum, have at it. Personally I find it rather emotionally manipulative sounding if you go this route though.
Flufferpup Sep 20, 2023 @ 5:30pm 
Originally posted by Midian13:
Originally posted by Flufferpup:

See that's the thing, I didn't make him do anything, my PC just asked him to. And at the camp, I was sympathetic about it. It feels like more of a hitch in the relationship to move on and grow from than something you call it quits over.

Yep, he dumped you, and good for him. He specifically said he didn't want to do it and why and you had him do it anyway. You decided to offer him up for a potion from a crazy Drow. It's about being used, which goes back to Cazador , it's about him learning to say no and having it accepted, which goes back to his abuse/enslavement, and since your character doesn't care what he wants, or lacks any understanding of why, then he's better off just being allies.

I'm pretty sure the dialogue choices I made were pretty clear that I cared what he wants, with how I defended astarion from the drow and made it clear that I was asking him to do it, not telling. In no way was the dialogue ordering him to do something, and at every point in the game up until then I had empowered him to be his own person.

this is starting to sound like an r/amitheasshole post at this point, so I'll just end with saying that the intentions I got from the presented dialogue choices felt at odds with their consequence, is all I'm saying.
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Caerbannog Sep 20, 2023 @ 5:51pm 
Originally posted by Flufferpup:
So to avoid spoilers, I did a certain thing in act 2 that astarion didn't like, after which he said we should "sleep separately from now on." Does that mean I'm cut off from romancing Astarion from that point on? I'm not gonna reload a save but if so, it's a shame to lose out on my sassy vampire bf lol.

Astarion was pretty clear in my playthrough that he didn't want anything to do with that Drow. By voice, words, and body language, I could tell it would be best if I defended him against this Drow pervert that isn't taking no for an answer. Like, she's making demands of me to force my romantic partner to suck her blood? gross. no way.
Flufferpup Sep 20, 2023 @ 6:21pm 
Originally posted by Caerbannog:
Originally posted by Flufferpup:
So to avoid spoilers, I did a certain thing in act 2 that astarion didn't like, after which he said we should "sleep separately from now on." Does that mean I'm cut off from romancing Astarion from that point on? I'm not gonna reload a save but if so, it's a shame to lose out on my sassy vampire bf lol.

Astarion was pretty clear in my playthrough that he didn't want anything to do with that Drow. By voice, words, and body language, I could tell it would be best if I defended him against this Drow pervert that isn't taking no for an answer. Like, she's making demands of me to force my romantic partner to suck her blood? gross. no way.

And, again, as I've said already, the dialogue options allow you to effectively go "The potion would be nice, but it's up to you," directly after defending him from the drow, upon which he makes the decision to do it. There's no forcing going on.
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Caerbannog Sep 20, 2023 @ 6:23pm 
Originally posted by Flufferpup:
Originally posted by Caerbannog:

Astarion was pretty clear in my playthrough that he didn't want anything to do with that Drow. By voice, words, and body language, I could tell it would be best if I defended him against this Drow pervert that isn't taking no for an answer. Like, she's making demands of me to force my romantic partner to suck her blood? gross. no way.

And, again, as I've said already, the dialogue options allow you to effectively go "The potion would be nice, but it's up to you," directly after defending him from the drow, upon which he makes the decision to do it. There's no forcing going on.

I did leave it up to him and he never agreed to it. Is it possible it's a bug with the latest hotfix or patch?
FloatingToadThing Sep 20, 2023 @ 6:30pm 
Originally posted by Flufferpup:
And, again, as I've said already, the dialogue options allow you to effectively go "The potion would be nice, but it's up to you," directly after defending him from the drow, upon which he makes the decision to do it. There's no forcing going on.
Just because you're not holding a gun to his head and threatening him doesn't mean you aren't coercing him into doing something he truly does not want to do. Sure you can justify it by thinking you're giving him the final decision, but in the moment you did pick that dialogue option because you hoped he would relent.
Flufferpup Sep 20, 2023 @ 6:33pm 
Originally posted by Caerbannog:
Originally posted by Flufferpup:

And, again, as I've said already, the dialogue options allow you to effectively go "The potion would be nice, but it's up to you," directly after defending him from the drow, upon which he makes the decision to do it. There's no forcing going on.

I did leave it up to him and he never agreed to it. Is it possible it's a bug with the latest hotfix or patch?

I believe there's two similar but different options. One is something along the lines of "I'm not going to force you" and the other is "It's up to you, but the potion would be useful" or something. Ultimately in both cases, he was never ordered to do anything and was given the chance to say no. Which is why I think his reaction, combined with how I've treated him in the past, feels a bit extreme.
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Date Posted: Sep 20, 2023 @ 3:41pm
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