Unable to join lobbies

[Murdock]

Me and my friends bought this game and we're trying to join lobbies with each other. Every time we get randomly booted, disconnected or get a 'Waiting for OK from host' then timing out since there is no way for the host to OK at all.

We regret purchasing this game. You can't even play it. This thing has been in early access for 2 years and multiplayer is still bonkers.

[Razuberi]

Hello,

to clarify some terminology from the game:

"Waiting for OK from Host" implies your game tries to contact the host's game (as it is a P2P network, not a server connection). It has to get an answer from the hosts' game to initiate the joining process. If the host's game does not respond, your request will time out (to reduce the load on the lobby, freeing up other joining requests). This does not mean your friend has to do anything, it is an automated process between the games themselves.

The booting message is currently a little confusing. It is not only used for when a Host actually boots you, it is also used when your connection is stressing the lobby too much and the anti lag system is trying to recover the lobby by kicking the source of the problem.

Keep in mind, due to it being a P2P Network, Player 2 (who is inside the lobby) may collide with Player 3, due to having some connection problems, leading to player 2 being kicked and player 3's joining being abandoned. An unfortunate situation.

To give a metaphor that makes it easier to understand, imagine instead of your phone connecting to a cell tower which reaches to your friend's phone, your phone tries to directly get a connection. It will be a lot harder to reach him without the help of a cell tower, and it will sadly be more prone to instability the further you are from each other or how your internet stability is, as well as when more phones are added into this scenario.

If you have problems joining him while he hosts, perhaps try to host yourself and he tries to join? To prevent others from possibly colliding, you can make the lobby a private one and invite your friend via Steam Friendlist.

May I ask what the average ping is between you and your friend? 

Do both of you use the same game state (1.58)? 

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