I think my girlfriend is cheating on me and I don't know how to ask.

[SQUIID]

Let me rephrase, because I have told my girlfriend these feelings that I have a couple of times now.

I have been with my girlfriend for a year now, but we've known each other for about 2 years, for the last couple months maybe about 6 months i will say i have had doubt about her "love" for me and believe she is hiding something from me.

I have told her many times that I feel like something is going on behind my back, or I would simply ask if she still "loves" me and want's to continue to be with me, she always says yes and that she "doesn't want anyone else" and that no one can compare to me.

I have gone through her phone once, I did this behind her back because I didn't want her to know I was going to go through her phone, I didn't know I would either, we woke up one morning and she left the room and i'm not sure why but I woke up in a bad mood and felt sad or mad or confused about something, I don't know what, so I went through the phone but didn't notice anything suspicious, BUT she told me before about this guy named allen, which she used to do stuff with and I went on her snapchat and saw this one guy named frozone or something weird, no name of him anywhere, I went through the chats and see that they hung out before, and he texts her goodnight and stuff but in a more friendly way, not in a way that seems like they are simply just normal friends.

She told me she doesn't talk to anyone she used to talk to and I don't know what this frozone guys name is but I can only make an assumption because she tells me i'm not allowed to talk to anyone I did before her *girl* ofc and I say okay i respect that and I believe that's how it should be in a relationship anyway, I told her I wouldn't feel comfortable with it either and that would be breaking for me and the relationship or trust for me with her, I went on her instagram the same morning while she was gone and went to her following and saw some guy named frozone or whatever and his name on there appears as "Big Al" and tell me if i'm, crazy or not but I don't know any "Al" that she knows, unless ofc he uses it short for "allen".

I have not mentioned any of this and i'm also scared to do so, because maybe she will find this disrespectful that I went through her phone and will try to make herself seem like the victim, because she be asking me if I'M CHEATING and i always tell her you have my passcode, go through my phone whenever you want, BTW I'M NOT CHEATING AND NEVER HAVE.

When I Ask her stuff like this though she tends to say to me *Are you sure you're not talking to anyone else because you know what they say the accuser is always the one doing shady ♥♥♥♥ man I swear" no literally, she said that to me 20 minutes ago because I asked her a similar question to what i'm feeling right now.

Maybe i'm crazy, maybe i'm stupid or maybe i'm just overthinking, because I can be pretty good at that, but i'm scared to ask my girlfriend about this guy for one, and two I don't know if or how I can make sure she's being loyal to me, because I don't want her to think i'm insecure, or controlling, in this situation, what should I do? and how?

ALSO ONE THING TO NOTE, SHE HAS TOLD ME BEFORE IF YOU THINK I'M CHEATING THEN GO THROUGH MY PHONE SO YOU SEE I'M NOT TALKING TO ANYONE ELSE. but that doesn't mean she can't just simply delete stuff..

also a few months back I noticed on her phone *before I went through it fully for the first time* some random unsaved number was texting her and she replied "it's been 2 years bro" and the person replied "ok my bad I wont bother you no more" I don't know if this flew over my head, or if i'm stupid and letting all this happen to me, should I run? should I confront and if everything is good then just stay? idk..

[Abaddon the Despoiler]

Try and find her second phone.

[L1qu1dator]

Originally posted by Abaddon the Despoiler:

Try and find her second phone.

[SQUIID]

Originally posted by Abaddon the Despoiler:

Try and find her second phone.

she doesn't have one, she's pretty broke.

[Silverlight]

Hot take: bringing extensive knowledge of your relationship to an open forum is also a form of cheating.
It's opening the sanctity of your bonding to strangers.

[volusat]

she is cheating 95% sure

[Silverlight]

Originally posted by volusat:

she is cheating 95% sure

Yeah it's over for sure.

The guy even knows it- the length of the post is venting and release.

It's over already and this is part of the healing process.

[Sir Dookface McFerretballs]

Nice copypasta, bruh!

Did you get it from reddit or 4chin or use AI to try and farm awards?

[SQUIID]

Originally posted by Sir Dookface McFerretballs:

Nice copypasta, bruh!

Did you get it from reddit or 4chin or use AI to try and farm awards? :MMForFun:

Definitely not lol, just want to get multiple opinions because no one has really given me a straight forward answer.. *friends at least*

[SQUIID]

Originally posted by Silverlight:

Originally posted by volusat:

she is cheating 95% sure

Yeah it's over for sure.

The guy even knows it- the length of the post is venting and release.

It's over already and this is part of the healing process.

But maybe she’s not cheating though and I’m just thinking about it too much cus one time I saw a snap come through her phone when she sitting next to me and I saw it and she said it’s a friend that used to work with her at Amazon because she was a driver for them.

[Silverlight]

Originally posted by Squiid:

Originally posted by Silverlight:

Yeah it's over for sure.

The guy even knows it- the length of the post is venting and release.

It's over already and this is part of the healing process.

But maybe she’s not cheating though and I’m just thinking about it too much cus one time I saw a snap come through her phone when she sitting next to me and I saw it and she said it’s a friend that used to work with her at Amazon because she was a driver for them.

Women don't have friends.
Not in the way men have them.

There's a reason why "The friend she told you not to worry about" is a widespread meme.

There is 0 reasons for her to be contacting anyone and even zero-er reason for her to be worried about you seeing it.

You're already out. There's nothing you can do. Look up hypergamy. It's real. And it's come for you.

[SQUIID]

Originally posted by Silverlight:

Originally posted by Squiid:

But maybe she’s not cheating though and I’m just thinking about it too much cus one time I saw a snap come through her phone when she sitting next to me and I saw it and she said it’s a friend that used to work with her at Amazon because she was a driver for them.

Women don't have friends.
Not in the way men have them.

There's a reason why "The friend she told you not to worry about" is a widespread meme.

There is 0 reasons for her to be contacting anyone and even zero-er reason for her to be worried about you seeing it.

You're already out. There's nothing you can do. Look up hypergamy. It's real. And it's come for you.

But she told me before tho that if I think she’s cheating I can go through her phone right then there, wouldn’t she just delete it if it was something to be worried about? She has no clue I went through her phone though and I would tell her I don’t want to or need to but I have her passcode to her phone wouldn’t she try to hide it better at least?

[Chaosolous]

You sound super insecure and unlikely to change.

Your girl would probably be better off leaving you.

[Silverlight]

Originally posted by Squiid:

Originally posted by Silverlight:

Women don't have friends.
Not in the way men have them.

There's a reason why "The friend she told you not to worry about" is a widespread meme.

There is 0 reasons for her to be contacting anyone and even zero-er reason for her to be worried about you seeing it.

You're already out. There's nothing you can do. Look up hypergamy. It's real. And it's come for you.

But she told me before tho that if I think she’s cheating I can go through her phone right then there, wouldn’t she just delete it if it was something to be worried about? She has no clue I went through her phone though and I would tell her I don’t want to or need to but I have her passcode to her phone wouldn’t she try to hide it better at least?

Look, this hurts to hear, but since you have the passcode to the phone that means she wouldn't use the phone to send incriminating messages. Or she'd clear them out before you saw them.

Women are typically very good at things like this, and use it to their advantage.
Even if she isn't cheating now- the fact that she's contacting other men means that she is shopping for one. Trying on the idea.

You can TRY to lock it in. Get a great job. Bulk up. Take command. But she is not respecting you by treating you in a way that makes you uncomfortable.
Once a woman disrespects you once- she will again.

Originally posted by Chaosolous:

You sound super insecure and unlikely to change.

Your girl would probably be better off leaving you.

This isn't untrue. An aspect of hypergamy is behavioral. Being secure in who you are is ciritcal.

[Neurotic Panda]

sounds like another made up 'need attention' let me post some BS on steam OT type story.

2/10 bait..

also.

If you don't have sex before marriage and find a girl who has the same mentality or morals then these issues go away.. you can then focus of more important things like relationship building for the long term.

funny how much drama people create for themselves or bring into their lives then b*tch about it.

[Bunnei Bealla]

going here for reletionship advice is like going to abusive parents and asking advice on how to take care of a child uwu