Stania Feb 14, 2013 @ 11:00am
Skyrim Marriage... Your experiences.
Hi, my fellow Skyrim fans. In this day so special for many lovey dovey people, I'm curious to read your opinions and experiences with your Dovahkiin's married life.

What would you have liked to be added or removed from the marriage system?

Which character did you marry and why?

Do you roleplay having attentions with your spouse (like give her/him a flower sometimes)?

If you use mods to enhance this experience, which are the best ones you have seen?

Did you see a curious or funny coincidence with your spouse?
For example, this happened to me recently: I was in the Blue Palace, and Vilkas was following me (I'm a male nord and he's my husband), then, a maid I talked to started to flirt at me, asking me if I was there to take her away from that place and show her a life full of adventures and romance. Just after that, Vilkas cleared his throat, when I looked at him, he was frowning at me. I switched to third person mode and rotated the camera, to see I had a worried face.

Let's make it a funny thread.
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Charlemagne Feb 14, 2013 @ 11:45am 
A little off topic but related to your post. I've noticed that Lydia (even if not married) seems to be jealous when some other girl flirts with my character. Might be only my own impression though.
Grim Feb 14, 2013 @ 12:38pm 
I foolishly married the first woman who showed interest, Ysolde I believe, because it was so unexpected that I didn't want to lose the opportunity, unaware that Bethesda hadn't fully implemented a marriage portion to the game...

Needless to say, as soon as I discovered that there were cooler, sexier, women to be married (Aela nom nom)... I sought info on divorce across the interwebs... Well, back then, there was very little info on the topic, outside of half-whispered rumours from dark, seedy, little websites...

The best one I could find suggested that if your Wife were to be killed accidentally, or if she were to attack you, unprovoked, and be killed in the process, you would get a courier visit informing you of your new found bachelorhood and marriage eligibilty.

So, armed with this VERY offbase knowledge... I proceeded to the whiterun home that I shared with my plain jane wife, and set out to provoke her. I, diabollically, transformed into a werewolf in front of her, and she immediately lost it, and attempted to butcher me with all manner of household implements! All it took was a single swipe... and Ysolde was DEAD.

I hid her corpse in the embers of the hearthfire... and waited patiently for the incoming courier... who... never arrived.

Now... My character is but an aged, lonely, murderer this valentine's day.

Lesson learned.
Kuros Feb 14, 2013 @ 2:19pm 
I would've liked to see a need to maintain the marriage. Like actually needing to talk to them every once in a while. Or bring them gifts specific to what that character likes, maybe they like red mountain flowers, or sapphires, or books. Another good thing would've been for them to have their own lives after they got married. My husband, Marcurio, was a mage for hire so it would be cool to come home and find a note on the table "I took a job to kill a Troll near Whiterun. I'll be back soon. There's stew in the pot." And then have him return with his own loot from his job. Would've been much better than that stupid store idea. You should only get a store if you marry a civilian.

I guess I don't have any really funny stories with him. I don't take him with me often because he has a bad habit of zapping my Dremora lords during combat, they eventually get ♥♥♥♥ed, charge him down and start fighting with him. Other than that, he's a fairly competent destruction mage. I suppose it is kind of funny when I dismiss him he always says "So you think you can make it on your own...we'll just see about that." pffft...♥♥♥♥.
stabbykitteh Feb 14, 2013 @ 2:32pm 
Originally posted by Kuros:
I would've liked to see a need to maintain the marriage. Like actually needing to talk to them every once in a while. Or bring them gifts specific to what that character likes, maybe they like red mountain flowers, or sapphires, or books. Another good thing would've been for them to have their own lives after they got married. My husband, Marcurio, was a mage for hire so it would be cool to come home and find a note on the table "I took a job to kill a Troll near Whiterun. I'll be back soon. There's stew in the pot." And then have him return with his own loot from his job. Would've been much better than that stupid store idea. You should only get a store if you marry a civilian.
Great idea and it would improve the roleplay experience immensely. As it is, the spouses are a weird sort of slot machine that gives updates on the kids occasionally. For Heathfire it would be nice if they actually took the fishing trip the kids mention every once in a while, too.

"Hello dear."
"Hi, got money?"
"Of course, dear."
"Ok, now cook me dinner."
"Of course, dear."
"Kthxbai."
~Ren~ Feb 14, 2013 @ 2:36pm 
Originally posted by Stania:
What would you have liked to be added or removed from the marriage system?

Which character did you marry and why?

Do you roleplay having attentions with your spouse (like give her/him a flower sometimes)?

If you use mods to enhance this experience, which are the best ones you have seen?

Did you see a curious or funny coincidence with your spouse?
For example, this happened to me recently: I was in the Blue Palace, and Vilkas was following me (I'm a male nord and he's my husband), then, a maid I talked to started to flirt at me, asking me if I was there to take her away from that place and show her a life full of adventures and romance. Just after that, Vilkas cleared his throat, when I looked at him, he was frowning at me. I switched to third person mode and rotated the camera, to see I had a worried face.

Let's make it a funny thread.

Maybe having the option of gifting more rings/necklaces that have been made or found, I'm at the point now where I have around 100 flawless jewels stored in one my houses, those are just going to be sold or combined with gold ingots to make jewellery, shame I have no one to give them too.

I married Aela but I did want to marry Serana, sadly no option to do that besides a mod.

I don't roleplay.

I don't use any mods besides 3 and those are only the unofficial patches (excluding DB).

The only thing that struck me as odd was when I entered my house in Whiterun and a bowl was on the floor, I picked it up and was about to put it back down on the table when Aela said "What are you doing that for?" I got 1 assault against me because of that, I assaulted a bowl :0
Blackstreak Feb 14, 2013 @ 2:36pm 
My favorite toon is a Khajit in whom I always marry off to Mjoll the Lioness. To add to the character I always make him a werewolf. My current version of him is the 4th rendering. To appreciate this humor here's a recap: A Khajit, who is a werewolf, and married to Mjoll the Lioness and in so doing causes her to be guilty of beastiality. Of course that last is only fictional since sexual relations of a marriage are not in the vanilla. And we have one boy and one girl through the adoption process.

I've heard of the mod that adds in marriage dynamics but have yet to use it myself. Perhaps I should because, otherwise, it's rather boring.
rolfskalder Feb 14, 2013 @ 2:40pm 
Marriage is nice, but I don't know why they don't allow serious wenching. When I played as a Redguard, maybe marriage would have been OK, but my character now is a rowdy Nord who drinks ale, mead, and wine whenever he finds it, to wash down the hunks of meat he eats raw. He should be able to entertain his Rabelaisian appetites in every major inn on the map. Instead, he gets, "Don't pay her no mind, she just flirts for tips." At the very least he should be able to ask the carriage driver where the town's brothels are.
Sam the beast Feb 14, 2013 @ 3:22pm 
Originally posted by j_elder132001:
I foolishly married the first woman who showed interest, Ysolde I believe, because it was so unexpected that I didn't want to lose the opportunity, unaware that Bethesda hadn't fully implemented a marriage portion to the game...

Needless to say, as soon as I discovered that there were cooler, sexier, women to be married (Aela nom nom)... I sought info on divorce across the interwebs... Well, back then, there was very little info on the topic, outside of half-whispered rumours from dark, seedy, little websites...

The best one I could find suggested that if your Wife were to be killed accidentally, or if she were to attack you, unprovoked, and be killed in the process, you would get a courier visit informing you of your new found bachelorhood and marriage eligibilty.

So, armed with this VERY offbase knowledge... I proceeded to the whiterun home that I shared with my plain jane wife, and set out to provoke her. I, diabollically, transformed into a werewolf in front of her, and she immediately lost it, and attempted to butcher me with all manner of household implements! All it took was a single swipe... and Ysolde was DEAD.

I hid her corpse in the embers of the hearthfire... and waited patiently for the incoming courier... who... never arrived.

Now... My character is but an aged, lonely, murderer this valentine's day.

Lesson learned.
me to :( i now come home to deposit found artifacts in chests and rarely look let alone talk to her as i know there are sexier women to be had yet i cannot get them. the unfortunate thing is i have tried killing her (as and not as a warewolf) and she doesnt seem to die? how do i kill the bugly woman?!
Stania Feb 14, 2013 @ 4:12pm 
Those are very nice ideas Kuros, I find very weird to see a strong warrior/mage that suddenly is dedicated to just cook, sweep the floors, sell and buy things. And even worse that the only stuff he is "selling" are the ones that I asked him to carry during a quest, not even something new. If I could give him stuff I don't need, to sell (and get part of the money gained), it could be a little better.

But I totally agree to the idea of them getting a job according to their capabilities, and even better, having a direct reward for it: if the spouse is a blacksmith he could give you a weapon or an armor piece. If he's a mage, he could teach you a new spell or give you an enchanted item, if he's a bard he could sing a special song for you.

Dovahkiin should get sad or homesick if he/she is away from home for a long time, and the need to sleep with the spouse on occasions. I would also like to see actual interaction between the spouse and the children, and not just them standing in front of each other like if they're playing a stare contest.

The only "realistic" thing I see from Vilkas is that sometimes he's not in the house, and when I'm adventuring alone, I use to find him hunting animals or bandits with Aela in random places near Windhelm. It would be cool if at least he gives me a piece of food from the animals he hunts.

Thanks everybody for sharing your thoughts.
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