Now I am normally a pretty positive person, but some of this game's community is one of the worst I've ever had the displeasure of dealing with and leaves me a very bittered impression of the game as a whole. I know the absolute worst of the worst are the focus of this and, most likely, are not representative of the entire community. However, throughout the 20 some odd hours I've tried to play this game I have not been helped, supported or even welcomed into most games (don't get me wrong, most games are fairly uneventful with people dropping in and out so often that no drama occurs. This is mainly aimed at the "one guy" who just has to be an ♥♥♥♥♥♥♥ and♥♥♥♥♥♥on everything he can".) It isn't even trash talk at some points, it is upset whining/crying that a team member underperformed (a.k.a scapegoating) when said community member loses the match. And yes I understand I am whining/crying about it, but at least I'm a self-aware hypocrite.
I'll be the first to admit that I am not the best player and that I can be, on occasion, somewhat bad in areas, but I am always learning from my mistakes and more than open to criticism. In fact, I welcome critiques from my peers. Especially those who are my senior because it helps me become a better player. However, there is criticism and then there is elitism. I can't actually improve under someone gloating about how they were off saving the day while I was being a bad player and ruining their good time.
So it sounds like the elitest and the new guy are both ruining eachother's fun; the only difference is that one is intentional and the other is something you can work your way out of (especially with the help of others). I haven't seen so much snobbery and outright snubbing of other player's in anyother game. In my humble (admittedly somewhat inexperienced) opinion, CoD has a more inviting community in some ways. I can say that with a straight face, as ridiculous as it is.
I've got a pretty thick skin and I can laugh at a lot of the outright elitist attitude, because it is all just insecure melodrama. But I didn't purchase L4D to laugh at people being ♥♥♥♥♥♥♥s, I wanted to make friends and have a good time and I'm not going to put up with it. So, to the friendly/helpful players please keep doing your thing and maybe these elitest snobs will run out of steam.